some facts about putting pronouns in profiles (247 words)
- Some people put pronouns in their profiles.
- Some people get misgendered a lot when they don't put pronouns in their profile, and put pronouns in their profile so they get misgendered less.
- Some of those aforementioned people are trans people.
- Bigots like to pick out things that the subjects of their bigotry do as "weird" to justify their harassment and abuse.
- When cis members of a community put pronouns in their profiles, harassment for listing pronouns becomes less. Anti-trans bigots are more hesitant to do it because doing so feels less socially acceptable; pro-trans people are emboldened to speak out against any such harassment that does occur. Further, trans people feel safer putting pronouns in their profiles.
- Not every cis person is comfortable or safe putting pronouns in their profile. (Not every 'cis' person is cis.) For that matter, not every /trans/ person is comfortable or safe putting pronouns in their profile. For some people, it's a no-brainer to include them or not; for other people, it's a hard choice, and they're the only ones who can make that choice.
- We talk about putting pronouns in profiles because we want people who've never thought about it to realize that it's possible. We can't make a choice for them, but they can't make the choice if they don't know there's one to be made, or what they're choosing between ... so we talk about it.
legal -
full name is too long to fit in the fields on legal forms, which means having to use physical copies and write things by hand, which means needing a dozen paper forms all in triplicate, which means both excessive waste and way too much spoons just to fill out the forms and now we gotta navigate the hell that is the local court on top of that. all of which could've been avoided if they'd had a decent character limit in these fields—some of them have a char limit of like. 52. why even
a bug, not a feature.
Genderless* cyberfae & co. at your service
assigned adult by the inexorable passage of time
don't use he/him or she/her pronouns for any of us without express permission
note that if we ever make you uncomfortable in any way please tell us so we know to stop. we're not always good at figuring these things out on our own