And I'm poly.
So, I was already dating someone else, concurrent to all this.
In conclusion, that relationship was a fucking mess.
Hot tips:
1. If you are not MuFos with a person, do NOT ask them to CW something. Just mute the conversation.
▪️ If you are white, and they are not, you are engaging in a racist method of control by trying to make this about you. Look it up.
2. You are not obligated to look at things that upset you. This means:
▪️ Don't follow accounts that don't CW shit that upset you. You should probably mute them. no one will know, I promise.
3. Read a book to educate yourself instead. Please.
learning trans history with garfeeld
I am referring to "The Empire Strikes Back: A Posttranssexual Manifesto", by Sandy Stone. In this essay, which is widely credited with originating transgender studies as an academic discipline, Stone argues against what she describes as "transsexualism", the all-too-familiar view that the only acceptable form of trans existence is one which aims for a "full" medical transition into a binary gender, in order to "pass" and become fully "integrated".
He had some really wild and weird ideas about what was appropriate to say to a small child. I remember a conversation we had once about OJ Simpson marrying a white woman. This was before the murder trial. I was born in '84, so we have a window between 1988 and 1993 when this might have happened. I remember it because it was so fucking weird.
The first "Peanuts" comic strip, but instead of Charlie Brown, it's Rivers Cuomo walking by, and instead of Shermie or Patty or whatever, it's me in the last panel, saying "How I hate him!"
There is also a sequel to the book Jungle Book, called the Second Jungle Book. It's a very depressing book, not least because Kipling wrote it. It's just filled with teenage Mowgli striding around being angsty about humanity.
Trans, guy of center, well over 18.
I'm in tech and it feels weird.