I feel like the new queer style is no body hair and that makes me sad 
@bengesko yeah the judging other peoples bodies is a big no no\turn off for me. I totally understand the double standard thing. I've been fat and thin and I'm a little on the thicker side rn, androgynous my whole life. Sorta feels like you can't get it right no matter what you do. I am thinking of the pressure to *remove* body hair specifically. I think when it boils down to it I love gender and sex presentation fuckery of all kinds. It feels like maybe as a larger community we are losing that.
@bengesko there is this pressure, seeping in to conform to the yt cis beauty standards.
@budsofstone it almost feels like a male gaze thing. i did shave my legs to try and stay a little cooler but i never have bare pits 😤
@jackie yeah it does, I have a lot of dark hair, I've tried shaving before didn't like it. I love my body hair and the queer community used too feel like a place for me but its feeling more exclusionary as of late.
@budsofstone
It's a frustrating double standard:
Thin/feminine? Body hair makes you icky.
Fat/masc? A lack of body hair makes you icky.
(I say as a thick transmasc who doesn't have a lot of body hair and has been snubbed because of it.)