re: incest
@klymilark @iro_miya I think the age gap thing is sorta blown out of portion. I've had a fair amount of +10 gap relationships where I was always the younger. They were all healthy. I've had relationships where we are close in age that weren't. It sorta feels like instead of confronting that abuse doesn't look like anything but abuse. There is a want to tye it to some other aspect of abusive relationships. I think also being older doesnt make one automaticly have more "power" u know?
re: incest
@budsofstone@computerfairi.es Oh, absoltutely. I'm 9 years younger than 2 of my partners and we started dating when I was 25, and 11 years younger than an ex who I got with at 23/24. There are definitely points where age gaps get worrying (20+ year difference when one of them is, like, 21), but even then it's a red flag not an immediately abusive situation.