The real secret? Cis men are simultaneously excited and terrified by the existence of AMAB trans feminine people.

They obviously don’t read us as being men and they feel attraction to us, but they know that patriarchal institutions still recognize us as men (no matter how much we’ve “failed” its tasks, cisheteropatriarchy has to uphold some form of gender determinism to make sense as a system)

So they panic. And most men were taught to handle emotional discomfort via violence.