I obviously don't think performing gender makes someone bad, but I think if you're constructing that performance through society's standards of gender you're going to be miserable because those standards are meant to make you into a productive tool who polices others.
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On the other hand if you construct weird gender based on your own desires that's going to probably be not only way more comfortable, but really cool.
I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of being considered a woman under the current system's standards of what Womanhood is.
But I'm very comfortable with a Fantastical Womanhood constructed through my cultural conception of how gender operates in hyena communities.
Is that a little silly? Maybe. But it's also very fun and basically you're missing out.