Just posted a photo https://www.instagram.com/p/B2s9OftlIbk/?igshid=v6kz62dne1pe
The best defense against abusers is to become an anti-abuser and to break up the systems of exploitation they depend on wherever you encounter them. This means thinking on your feet and being willing to question what others accept at face value.
Everything else aside, you can familiarize yourself with abuse tactics and position yourself against them wherever you see them. Read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft as a good primer.
The more complicated and multi-layered the system, the more positions there are to be infiltrated by abusers.
But I'm very comfortable with a Fantastical Womanhood constructed through my cultural conception of how gender operates in hyena communities.
Is that a little silly? Maybe. But it's also very fun and basically you're missing out.
On the other hand if you construct weird gender based on your own desires that's going to probably be not only way more comfortable, but really cool.
I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of being considered a woman under the current system's standards of what Womanhood is.
What's really happening is that civilization has destabilized various of the natural processes it depends on and civilizational agents are trying to come up with a reason why that doesn't mean doom for all of us.
27 | Degenerate Faggot | Anarchic Decivilizer