Some thoughts have been slushing around in my brain juices about something which has proved controversial on this platform. I've meant to post about it for a very long time but have been put off by the extreme reactions I've encountered from people before. And now I'm thinking, that's kind of a shitty thing to be put off by, maybe I can try and invite more careful discussion. This will be CW'd but do still be warned that this is an upsetting and difficult topic!