Do people not know how to parent anymore? (-Vent)
For the past two weeks, I’ve been hosting a dear friend who was kicked out of her house for not making enough money at her job ($13.50/hr.)
Since then, she’s gotten two new jobs - both higher playing and her mother has:
- Demanded that she apply for a third.
- Forced her to watch the house she was kicked out of.
- Blamed her for having to live with me temporarily.
- Shell our huge amounts of money to support her extravagant lifestyle.
Do people not know how to parent anymore? (-Vent)
This, of course, omits a number of other things, like how this girl is now an only child and her younger sister actively gets away with poor grades, lying, and compromising their financial foundation on the regular...
While a girl graduating with honors is Cinderella’d into oblivion and back.
Do people not know how to parent anymore? (-Vent)
Today, I woke up to her in tears because while her sister lent the only house keys to a complete stranger, thereby necessitating a change in locks and leaving the whole house vulnerable — SHE has to pay HER SISTER $150 for an UNSPECIFIED NEED or risk never being able to go home again.
Do people not know how to parent anymore? (-Vent)
I’ve never been so uncomfortably livid in my life. I didn’t have the greatest childhood, but I at least had one person to offset the abuses I suffered.
She has NO ONE. And the IDEA that you have to subsidize said abuse when you can’t even reap the one benefit of stable living is bile-spitting BULLSHIT.
Do people not know how to parent anymore? (-Vent)
She can’t even use the SNAP card that she’s working for because her mother took it so she can buy food without working herself.
I didn’t even think this kind of Saturday Morning Cartoon evil actually existed.
She won’t let my friend go to college unless it’s a very specific one. She gets pissed when she has a social life and moreso when she doesn’t...
Long story short, your kids are a responsibility that you need to prepare for and render life skills upon, not a vehicle for you to live vicariously through to live the life you didn’t.
They didn’t ask to be here so you don’t ask them to justify their existence.
Update: It got worse. Much, much worse.
While I was at work, my friend's abusive mother managed to guilt trip her to come home because she was quote 'draining my resources' by staying with me.
She then proceeded to denounce all the progress she made and forbade her from taking up the jobs that she successfully acquired.
Worse still, her mother delivered an ultimatum: pay off all her tuition debt or be disowned.
Update: It got worse. Much, much worse.
So, to catch everyone up - she has to find jobs that fit her mother's extremely particular series of criteria, pay back over $6k in collegiate arrears, and pay rent at a place she could barely live in or being officially nixed from the family.
Which, of course, means that she goes from being the suspect child to the official black sheep.
Update: It got worse. Much, much worse.
If this comes to pass, her options lain out by her mother are as follows:
- Move to Nowhere, Mississippi with her decrepit grandmother with no chance of finding employment within a 50 mi. radius.
- Be conscripted into the US military in her mother's vain hope that it'll pay off her debts despite the VA doing nothing.
- Become itinerant and hope for the best.
Update: It got worse. Much, much worse.
@tahajin hecking fuck that is some strong manipulation and I'm so sorry. you do what you do because you want to lift people up, and it sounds like she's getting none of that from her family. I know breaking family ties is hard and sometimes unfeasible but I can hardly imagine a scenario where it's more appropriate. the mother is painting non-resistance as the only "good" option and that's so subversive. hoping for the best here ;.; *offers yall hugs*
