walking into a cafe yesterday with my partner yesterday, cashier called from the counter, "hi ladies how are you today?" and i was like "??? =D ???? =?"

like, wow, i actually thought i couldn't be seen as anything but male, and tbh that might be the most concretely stateable "goal" i have

on the other hand, i wish it didn't happen with a "ladies," it's frustrating for us

also later in the day the cashier at Home Depot seemed to be mansplaining how to use a wall anchor