kink roles question, discussion welcome // 

Given that someone is a switch (they enjoy taking on both dominant and submissive roles in scenes/relationshils), how would you decide if they were a "dom-leaning switch" or a "sub-leaning switch"?

even without getting into "performs dominance as a service" switches, it's not obvious to me how you'd evaluate someone with e.g a low-key 24/7 subby dynamic with one parter & infrequent but high intensity scenes with many others as leaning one way or another

kink roles question, discussion welcome // 

@lioness It's all self-identification, isn't it? You have more energy for one, or prefer it more often, or however it makes sense for you to think about it. I've never heard of the actual time/effort/whatever spent on scenes having anything to do with it. -Mattie

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kink roles question, discussion welcome // 

@lioness I'm not sure how I'd self-identify? I know now that I'm interested in both, because of interactions with iore, but so far I can't quantify that interest beyond "yes". If we go by time spent I'd be sub-leaning, but that's for entirely practical reasons and not a preference so it doesn't ring true to me. -Cedar

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