interpersonal emotional safety //
I have half of an idea here, trying to figure out what it is & how to describe it (input welcome ❤️)
I crave a kind of safety [comfort?] in interpersonal interactions/relations — something like the opposite of being afraid of making a mistake, and not the "safety" of taking up as little space as possible.
maybe "fear of accidentally transgressing" ? I don't want to cross others' boundaries, but I don't want to be paralyzed by not knowing what's okay by them.
re: interpersonal emotional safety //
an example of avoiding this: directly asking "may I flirt with you?". either yes or no are fine answers; if they say no, I can procede without uncertainty, & be confident I'm not letting fear define what I am.
(this isn't perfect; asking the question can still put people on the spot in uncomfortable ways, & it still centers me — "would you like me to flirt with you?" might be better.)
re2: interpersonal emotional safety //
* safe to say things w/o spending infinity brain cycles analyzing how it could be taken the wrong way — trusting that ppl will meet me halfway to avoid/resolve miscommunications & hurt feelings
* safe to have and express desires, including a desire for intimacy. also weird autistic kink shit? again, not a desire to cross boundaries, but like if we're in a context where I can ask to be someone's doll for a little while, I wanna know that!
