Esme Povirk @madewokherd@computerfairi.es
Joined Aug 2018
@pop I think we're in a weird place right now. We have binary labels and expectations put on us that we may not want and for some people are very harmful. One way people deal with past harms is by taking ownership/control of the thing that was used to harm them. So I think people are taking ownership of these ideas of gender, and using that to heal, but it does mean that the labels ultimately don't convey any real meaning, as you say. But I think it's silly and beautiful and I enjoy it.
@pop Oh, I guess there is something to clarify: it's about gender as a verb, the way people try to "read" another person's gender and all the weird baggage that comes along with it. The concept of gender is a bit silly too imo, but I don't think it's in as much need of mockery.
@pop I dunno, I enjoyed making it, and at least one person seemed to really enjoy reading it, so I consider the meme a success.
The trouble with identity words is that if your definition is too narrow it'll exclude/invalidate someone. And what does it matter anyway? Why do we need a unified theory of what the heck gender is? Isn't it enough to go with a label that works for us (or no labels) and enjoy that?
@pop I preferred not to go into that to keep things simple and follow the meme format (https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/stop-doing-math)
I figure gender is for individuals to define for themselves, and however they want to do that is none of my business (unless they choose to tell me).
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My mum would spend hours ironing clothes when I was a kid. I dont think I’ve ever seen an ironing board at any of my friends houses. A whole generation just said “fuck ironing” and we did. Good work everyone.
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Folks sometimes point out my comfort with vulnerability, which often feels like it's missing the point
Being queer and coming out taught me that agency is the only way to deal with trauma
Trauma doesn't get better by ignoring or repressing it. And repeated trauma doesn't get worse — *as long as I change how I deal with it*
@hollie I am vaguely aware but choose to take it at face value anyway.
Oh just looking up how butterflies fly so our new fairy headmate can figure out a way to make the physics feel right.
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@stefenauris @herbincowgirl
No, it's not pain or trauma that teaches us to be sympathetic or compassionate.
We only recover from trauma when we have support from our community and from other people around us to help us heal. That healing doesn't just "happen", and therapy isn't enough. There's no path for recovering from trauma without other people participating in our healing process.
Some people don't recover from trauma. That's not to say that they never will—but it's not going to happen alone. It was more than 5-10 years before I found the help I needed to recover from some of my experiences.
Trauma didn't give me empathy. Trauma gave me fear, anger, cynicism, and nihilism. It's the people who helped me that supported me in growing my understanding and compassion and patience, and turned me from cynicism toward hopeful curiosity.
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#rb to make a #biological #essentialist mad <3
“This collapse is a telltale sign of a problem known as publication bias. Small, early #studies which found a significant #sex difference were likelier to get published than #research finding no male-female #brain difference.”
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Why are autistic people so cool and relatable wtf
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A question and poll for my fellow autistics. Please boost to expand reach.
In Temple Grandin's book, Thinking In Pictures, she describes her development of her compression machine or a hug box, which she used to self administer deep compression therapy and it helped to calm her.
But I'm wondering if any autistics in the fediverse have ever tried wearing corsets, because it seems to me that some of us might find they provide therapeutic stimulation.
Have you worn a corset?
2 years HRT today!
@Crell I've had "Full public profile" turned off for a long time because as I understood it, the creators you support have always defaulted to public.
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Become ungenderable
I love the silly little people in my head.
streaming
https://twitch.tv/madewokherd Trying out BIT.TRIP RERUNNER.
Joined Aug 2018
