Esme Povirk @madewokherd@computerfairi.es
Joined Aug 2018
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This is your reminder to back up your fediverse account exports. Backup your followers, your mutes and blocks. Do it do it do it
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Every time some corporate person I know announces their transition on LinkedIn, I almost want to congratulate them then I realize they mean career transition
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"Drop" is probably the most useful concept that I don't think is widely understood outside the kink community but applies to SO MUCH STUFF in everyday life.
Drop is the shitty feeling you get after an intense experience (including an intense positive experience). It's sometimes immediate, but sometimes the day after or some other time. "Post-con depression" is a form of drop. In the kink community, we try really hard to stop drop from happening with aftercare, but outside of the scene you don't often get the chance to build in aftercare to intense experiences.
Different people find different things helpful for dealing with it. Rest is generally good, as is doing things you like, sugary foods, and recognising that you are in drop and not putting too much pressure on yourself.
allowing yourself to do what you need to get through drop is crucial (imo) to allowing positive experiences to stay positive, and to deal with the emotional effects of negative ones.
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Autistic peer-to-peer information transfer is highly effective:
"... information transfer between autistic people may be more successful than information transfer between an autistic and a non-autistic person. ... autistic people effectively share information with each other. Information transfer selectively degrades more quickly in mixed pairs, in parallel with a reduction in rapport."
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1362361320919286
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@Frances_Larina @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic And I think the way that happened for me was by pursuing specific interests that bring in both kinds of folks. But since that depends on what your particular interests are, it doesn't really work as advice. -Cole
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@Frances_Larina @magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic This might explain a lot about why my experiences of queer communities so often differ from others I hear about. I think I tend to end up in communities where ND folks and queer folks congregate, even though they're not necessarily explicitly either. -Cole
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@magicalgrrrl @actuallyautistic
It's been my experience that I am mostly welcome in the corners of the queer world that are ND. The rest of it seems very NT oriented & centric. That's okay, it just mimics the straight world. But it's important to keep in mind when seeking out friendships.
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https://twitch.tv/madewokherd Playing BIT.TRIP Runner still.
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Chrome’s next weapon in the War on Ad Blockers: Slower extension updates
When ad blocking is a cat-and-mouse game, make the mouse slower.
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https://twitch.tv/madewokherd Continuing with BIT.TRIP Runner.
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Baldur’s Gate 3 bug caused by game’s endless mulling of evil deeds
"Unnoticed and eternally-active acts of theft and violence" to be fixed soon.
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Study finds no “smoking gun” for mental health issues due to Internet usage
“The best data... suggests that there is not a global link between these factors,.
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I knew the Dunning-Kruger effect wasn't valid, but thanks to this post I finally understand why: "The Dunning-Kruger Effect is Autocorrelation"
https://economicsfromthetopdown.com/2022/04/08/the-dunning-kruger-effect-is-autocorrelation/
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Poverty shouldn't exist. For anyone. Ever. Too often I hear 'No one with a job should live in poverty.' True. But let's go further. No one should live in poverty, job or not. Jobs should be a ticket to more than just survival.
Think thriving, not surviving; buying fun, not life.
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https://twitch.tv/madewokherd Continuing my ALTTP door rando seed from forever ago. In which I took no notes so I now have to work out where I am from scratch.
I'll be taking notes this time.
plurality (thread)
I think what makes this most challenging is to balance the need for an internal narrative and the way our beliefs shape our internal reality, while also being open to the possibility of being wrong. It's good to question things when they don't seem to line up so you can get a more accurate model, but not too much.
And we have to be more willing to question our explanations of external reality, which mostly does not seem to be influenced by our ideas of it.
-Menderbot
plurality (thread)
One thing to also remember is that non-plurals also have an internal narrative that they tell themselves, regarding where their thoughts/feelings/motivations/actions come from, and I'm guessing most do not spend much time doubting that narrative, even though it's at least as limited and likely to be incorrect as the plural model.
plurality (thread)
In our experience, the brain is influenced by the way we explain our own experiences. It'll respond to doubt by cutting things off, making it harder to hear headmates and identify them. It may even result in emotional harm. Conversely, committing to a narrative makes these things easier, even if the narrative doesn't perfectly match reality.
Reality, even of the human mind, is too complex for us to grasp anyway. Plurality is the best model we have, but it's still a model.
plurality (thread)
There's a common concern among systems of "parroting" - basically putting words in your headmates' mouth. You think your headmate said something, but was that really them? Maybe you just imagined it, or it's what you think they would say.
I think we have to accept the uncertainty (assuming they don't correct us) and proceed as if they did, because the alternative is worse.
Joined Aug 2018
