Esme Povirk @madewokherd@computerfairi.es

Please, please, PLEASE use a CW on your posts about gun violence.

I've seen a lot of crap being put about on the idea of parents' rights. I want to reject this idea outright.

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS PARENTS' RIGHTS.

Parents do not have "rights" over their children. The children have rights; the parents have responsibilities to see that those rights are upheld.

In order for the parents to have rights, then necessarily the child does not have them. The only situation in which we have allowed one human to usurp another's rights was slavery; and I would argue children are not property.

If they're not property, then they're people, and if they're people, then they have rights. If they have rights, parents can't.

This is such a crucial distinction. The parents don't have a right to have their child educated; the child has a right to a good education. The parents don't have the right to participate in sport; the child does. And so on.

Once you reframe the idea like this, that children are human beings with their own rights, you see what a disingenous line of attack this is from the right wing.

Parents have an awesome responsibility: the care and management of the human rights of beings not able to assert them for themselves. But it must be clear that the rights belong to the children, and that they are being safeguarded, not owned, by the parents.

This simple conceptual shift shows that children should have full bodily autonomy, including consent to touch from anyone, and including the right to present as the gender they want. The right to religion, or freedom from it if they want. The rights are theirs, and the parents should have no power to abrogate those rights without due care and consideration.

Yes, by the way, I am a parent, as well as a grandparent. I stand by this. My kids are not my property, never were.

Random reminder that a lot of the communication "competency" attributed to neurotypical people comes down to privilege: meeting-first cultures, in-office/anti-WFH cultures, dining areas built as wide-open spaces, even the filling of cities with noisy cars instead of trees, etc.

I typo github as githug so often that I think they should just change their name.

When you see "WARNING: REMOTE HOST IDENTIFICATION HAS CHANGED!" this morning, go here:

https://github.blog/2023-03-23-we-updated-our-rsa-ssh-host-key/

your feelings are valid!!! your syntax unfortunately is not

Them: You said you were interesting!

Me: I said I was into resting!

This is for non-trans people only!

Do you think it is #transphobic to not want to date trans people?

There is an accompanying poll for trans people in the replies.

Please #boost so that I can have a larger sample size than I might otherwise get.

Boost the other poll too if you can.

#poll

#Trans friends, I was thinking about our diverse stories, and found myself wondering about the age you knew you were trans (whether you had language to describe it or not)?

I didn't know until my late 40s. Earlier, I knew I was different, but not really in what way.

When did you know?

Please boost for reach, let's get a big sample size!