big questions for the transgender community, big -honest- questions, no bullcrap i really wanna be educated here... do the likes of Riley J Dennis speak for you as a whole? am i really 'cissexist' for not wanting to date a transgender person? am i transphobic because i fear arrest for an honest pronoun mistake covered by bill/law C16 in canada? am i to be -forced- to use your preferred pronoun or else? why does it seem you hate cis ppl just for being cis?

@Mephitidae ok, so my answers would be:

– you don't have to date any specific person. but if you say that you don't want to date a trans person, no matter your intentions, that is most likely because you have learned of cissexist standards of who is desirable. that doesn't mean that you should force yourself to date a trans person, because that wouldn't be fun for either of you. just acknowledge that personal taste can be shaped by social shit.

@Mephitidae

– I have no idea about Canadian law or the way it is enforced.

– I mean, nobody can force you to use the correct pronouns. But if you know someone's pronouns, why would you use different ones on purpose? That is just extremely rude and shows the other person that you value your idea of who they should be over who they actually are. Mistakes happen, they are ok.