there's a lot of opinions wrt the queer infighting abt labels & flags, how it exists because of a generational divide between people over / under 18, and i understand that work needs to be done to create a place that accommodates everybody to learn about our roots better. However
people don't like it when older queers distance themselves from minors saying that we're the ones driving a wedge in the community but being told that the thing we've been doing, the names *we've been* for years is wrong, like we don't know our own queerness, is disingenuous
and this is how i learned why i should never again try to correct an older person who uses transsexual or transwoman without the space for herself
do still correct cis people on that second one though.
i should not be asked to put up with people younger than me spouting harassment because of my identity, or what flags i use, let alone death threats to the people denouncing them for falling for TERF rhetoric