maple classic™ 
so i just realized
my desktop is 4 feet away from the nextcloud server
but because of how i had to set up the proxy... the files are going all the way up to my vps, and then back
maybe if i put nc.maple.pet as 192.168.1.64 in my hosts file on windows it'd bypass that?
no because it still won't know to get the ports right... ah well
thanks to rachel i got it working now :3 and instead of using windows' hosts file i just put it in the openwrt's hosts file instead and it serves the local ip address to any other machine in my network now instead of traveling half the world and back :p