it took one suicide attempt for them to back off *a little bit* and let me take the minimal amount of control over my life
and now that i have a semblance of a life outside my family they keep complaining i'm abandoning them even though they still rope me into horrible family reunions and i get no say in it
and now i just have horrible self-esteem and generally a lot of direct and indirect self-hate in several ways because of how much i was put down growing up