I usually avoid subtooting subtoots but, well, here we go

there's more going on than ends up on masto, there's more than one side of the story as there always is when more than one person is involved

I'm not going to go into it because 1) I don't know everything, 2) it's not my place, and 3) it wouldn't help much if I did

what I will say is that this is shit for everyone involved and nobody has the full picture