to sum up the core of the spicy feminist ranting
gay guys.... the patriarchy is a liar. you can't lean into the patriarchy enough to make it fundamentally love you, because it doesn't. if you try to do so, sure, the patriarchy will take you up a peg above women, but that's still way below straight men. you can't agree with the patriarchy's devaluing of you into them valuing you. you can't agree that you're lesser-than so incredibly hard that you become as-good-as.
to sum up the core of the spicy feminist ranting
"i can do a womanly thing better than all the women" gives momentary power, but it only gives it when you agree with the patriarchy that gay men are closer to women than men, and that women are fundamentally lesser. this is a bullshit premise, and you need to emphatically not buy into it.
the patriarchy isn't right. the patriarchy will never be right. don't listen to it. don't buy into it. just don't.
