this is partly spurred by meta drama but also some other drama in completely different (non-masto) circles so this truly is a general statement:
you don't have to be angry at something all the time. start assuming good faith for people until they show they're not acting with it. be able to be forgiving. research shit before posting hot takes.
@highsaffron i don't know what the fuck kinda shit is going down, but this is a good take.
also, anger is addictive. you can very easily get into a spiral of just being angry all the time, and not actually doing anything useful or worthwhile with that anger, while still giving yourself all the negative effects. anger is useful, but it is like fire - it belongs in a carefully tended furnace or on a candle, not raging to take over your entire house.
@wigglytuffitout exactly. i don't know what the meta shit going on is either, but it's so vague and inflammatory that im just not even seeking out engagement with it (if people i follow post about it, i engage with them directly if i even decide to).
as for the broader topic, you're definitely right about anger being used well if controlled. the issue is some people just think the proper way to feel about issues is always 100% anger and nothing else. among other things that shit is just tiring
@highsaffron it really is tiring!!! honestly i only really know about this cycle because i did it for so many years - and have my moments of doing it still where i gotta check in on myself.
and holy shit, being angry all the time is exhausting. and it can really wreck your body, too. but i'm biased there with the fibro, i admit, because tensing up muscles out of irritation can become a nonstop pain bonanza pretty quick in my case LOL
@wigglytuffitout it's most definitely something i still fall into without realizing it, i only knew i was doing it when a friend of mine started to talk about this kinda stuff (not directed at me) where i realized the kind of behavior she was talking about was also things ive done. it's embarrassing to think about but it's also worth knowing that to acknowledge that behavior and work against it is definitely good, and it'll eventually fade into the past just like all other embarassing things lol