a wigglytuff asks for advice among fellow discord moderators
my reasoning is that the statements go one of two ways
1. it's bullshit attention seeking, fishing for "nooo you're so greeeat please stay"
2. it's the truth, which is worse, because if the entire hobby is toxic for this person, keeping them on the server as a gateway back into those toxic behaviors is pretty fucking cruel. at that point it's clearly my onus as mod to cut them off if they're here for digital self-harm.