:') Someone actually complained that they wouldn't join my server because I block zero instances.

Why would you complain? There's a bunch of fedi servers around. Go find one that caters to your mommy-daddy-take-care-of-me feels.

I have yet to see a server that I've needed to block; just mute a few assholes here and there. But only for my account.

@SinaCutie that's an... interesting take, equating the desire for a fedi server that, say, blocks obvious bad actors as a purely childish impulse of "mommy-daddy-take-care-of-me feels" needing to be 'catered to', and thus beneath you.

commendable to wear it on your sleeve i suppose, but i'm also not sure why you're shocked at this exercise in libertarian server management may be unpopular.

@wigglytuffitout I never said it was mandatory -- I am just grumped that people feel the need to tell me they won't use my server 'cause I don't block other servers.

They can use any other server they want, why should it bother them if I don't block who they want blocked?
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@SinaCutie that's a valid critique that they can go elsewhere, but why characterize someone wanting server blocks in place as so childish?

it's someone wanting a level of curation that your server doesn't offer, not someone who needs to be mocked as wanting mommy and daddy to do all the work for them - especially when you ended up throwing everyone who wants server blocks in place in their social space as just having childish feels to be catered to.

@wigglytuffitout Like I've said before, perhaps my understanding of how 'feels' is used in slang is wrong. It was the first word that came to mind, but I am certainly not intending to mock people. Jfc.

@SinaCutie so, it's not mocking, you just used abrasive language to compare them to whiny children and dismiss that concern/people seeking that feature as childish?

well, as i said, interesting take, and a stance you can certainly align yourself with. you may also have to accept that in intentionally using abrasive language for it, people will take the abrasive language, well, abrasively.

c'est la vie, and all that jazz.

@wigglytuffitout It was not intended to sound childish, and it did not sound childish in my head when I wrote it.

Holy shit, I'm sorry I ever spoke.

@SinaCutie whelp, i guess then that's a lesson about what phrases you meant to be abrasive, including those indicating childishness like " like "mommy-daddy-take-care-of-me", are taken. and how if you set out to be abrasive, sometimes you end up being taken as abrasive, leading people to "get hung up on your words" and skip over your deeper meaning. i know it's frustrating, but sometimes if you aim to be combative in communication, you end up being taken as combative. /shrug.

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My 2p is that unless a public instance is being run as a coop it's ultimately the decision of the admin as to what sort of blocking policy to adopt. Admins should try to accommodate the concerns of users within reason but if there's some fundamental disagreement then users can go to other instances. This is what affinity is about.
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