anyway the one true kink that matters is someone adoring and loving you with genuine, humble respect, not as just one facet, or even a few facets, but as your whole, gestalt entity, as the sum of all parts, of all thoughts, interests, and so on, truly allowing you to be vulnerable and open, and receiving such in return, all the gates flung wide so that souls can mingle freely

don't at me you know i'm right