Techfolk
@funnypanja as someone who has kinda seen this unfold -
you can genuinely find yourself in a place where your accessibility needs conflict with someone else's. that is not an impossible situation, nor does it mean one must be morally right and the other morally wrong. that is just life.
asking for cws is something you can and should feel like you can do.
abusing people is not something you can and should feel like you can do.
Techfolk
@funnypanja there is no shame in using tools already available to you as well: blacklist features, only browsing friends, only browsing local timeline, etc.
i am also disabled. i also have had to ask people to cw things.
it is something that a lot of people are happy to do. but it requires asking them, not abusing them.
you may be frustrated, tired, and at the end of your rope. but for the people you are snapping at, this is the first time they've heard of it.
Techfolk
@funnypanja i know it means using spoons, mental energy, and is vexing. however, this situation came about because you went at someone claws-out as a first action.
your frustration, anger, and exhaustion are valid.
but your frustration, anger, and exhaustion are not a good reason to abuse other people. that is not your permission slip to yell at them, to attack them, and to be abusive towards them.
THAT is why people are upset with you.
Techfolk
@funnypanja asking you to not attack others is not tone policing.
i understand you are frustrated and upset.
however, if you cannot interact with people without lashing out at them because you are frustrated and upset, it is a good time to step away from the situation.
use tools already at your disposal. this can include just logging off for awhile. i know, i've been there, i've done that. sometimes my disability also makes it so i cannot interact well with others.
Techfolk
@funnypanja but at the end of the day, it is not a very good excuse for treating other people like my personal punching bag. it is those times that i know the better thing to do is not use any spoons i don't have, and *step away*.
telling someone to "get a life" after a demand is not acceptable behavior. you don't get to police THEIR tone, either. you don't get to demand that they don't talk about their interests. and you don't get to belittle their interests as you ask for a cw.
Techfolk
@funnypanja if you truly have no spoons, i sympathize. i have also been there.
the fix is always to not throw more energy at the problem. it is to remove yourself from the problem.
you cannot police everyone else's tone. you cannot abuse people and belittle them into doing what you want. the energy you will expend trying to do that is, well, going to be wasted.
i've been here. i've done that. i'm also disabled. i'm also not neurotypical. there is a better path here. your choice.
Techfolk
@funnypanja fair enough.
or are you tone policing me now, telling you i'm not making an entertaining and pleasing song and dance for you? i guess as soon as somebody's behavior even gets slightly difficult to accommodate, all you've got is 'fuck off', eh? ;)
anyway, i'll take my own advice. i've been there, tried this, and ended up stuck in absolute misery. it's why i felt the urge to speak up. but, so it goes, i suppose. have a good evening. o/