Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

@Dayglochainsaw idk if you're comfortable with it, but i know that when i had Serious Shit I Must Remember To Talk About with my therapist, it really helped me to write it down - and sometimes to even bring two copies and hand one to my therapist for that additional accountability

it definitely makes it more of a Big Thing, but it does mean Big Things Get Done?

given the new year and all, i should probably see about eating some collard greens

but i only like about three forkfuls per year of collards, then i'm done.

........this is why i'm poor, isn't it

@aflightybroad i think you may have been catcalled by a goose that has been turned into a human by a witch, probably as part of some punishment

@maple honestly what really made it click for me was a friend explaining that sometimes, 'queer' is a very useful word in 'i want to indicate i am non-cishet in some fashion, but i do not know how safe i am currently expressing some aspects of that'. which i can totally understand! and i am grateful to them for explaining that aspect to me tbh.

a note on my tagging for CWs:

i may be a little slow to tag for CWs, particularly as i look for ones that may be new to me but common on mastodon.

i promise this is not the token cishet being ornery or stubborn; it's me having a moment. the various medicines i take for my illnesses (including pain meds, etc) mean sometimes i don't brain so good.

i promise it's not malice, and i will always be happy to put cw on things if asked, feel FREE to do so and TELL ME if i've forgotten!

so, i will say that in tumblr i have gotten pretty used to 'queer' as umbrella term of choice. the social circle i was in was emphatically pro-queer, and as token cishet, i tried to use the language they thought most appropriate (and that i was used to seeing academically).

however! if you are following me and need/want me to cw it, PLEASE LET ME KNOW and i will do my best to cw it for you!

@zoey as token cishet, i'm so out of my lane i may as well be a wrong-way driver, but i generally abide by the rule of "always cw if the word is being used specifically as an insult, not as a reclaimed umbrella term. in the second case, to thine own conscience be true and/or see if anyone says 'i would appreciate a cw warning for that', or if you are in company of people who appreciate it being emphatically NOT cw'd.

so anyway i'm gonna just chill today, maybe grind more in the stupid anime game while blasting vaporwave, and try to not become a being of pure anxiety that begins to glitch through the floor as if i were programmed by bethesda

so my mom was scheduled for her heart cath procedure at 8:30 this morning. they woke her up to begin preparing her at 4am.

it is now 2pm, they still haven't started lol.

i'm guessing this means another day lost to stress, they might keep her overnight, and it's a good thing i stocked up on groceries.

@Tenshi@yiff.life honestly, i'm still very new to masto and i get the same feeling sometimes. i think it's connected with the like... very format of the medium, so to speak. coming from tumblr (where i could blather to my heart's content), it seems very much like a platform for jettisoning quips into the ether. but i think this can be combatted by surrounding yourself with people who are willing to make those connections and don't see them as 'impolite', perhaps? (or maybe i'm talking out my ass here)

YEAH I HAD NEVER HEARD OF IT EITHER, i went to my doctor all panicky and worrying that it was actually like idfk, fucking lupus or some shit, but nah. it's just that shit

it's not even a big deal. it's just that there is a lil yeast buddy that normally lives on your skin and causes no problems whatsoever, but every so often your immune system UTTERLY FLIPS THE FUCK OUT ABOUT IT so the anti-fungal creams are the fix to get said immune response to also calm the fuck down.

@dankwraith ....honestly if the can is intact and not bulging or distorted, and doesn't spurt out any gunk when opened, you're probably fine.

they'll likely taste ...non-optimal, but according to recs they've probably got like 3 more years in em

oh hey i might know something helpful for this

are you sure it's dandruff? bc i had what i thought was very upsetting bad dandruff into my eyebrows but it turned out that why the dandruff shampoo wasn't working is because... it was seborrheic dermatitis, which sounds far more dramatic than it actually is, and is pretty simple to knock the fuck out

you can test that theory by getting an antifungal cream on there to see if it helps (also creams are easier to wangle than shampoo around eyes tbh)

@velexiraptor oh ok good!

tbh i'm often that out of the loop myself LOL so take that rambling then mainly as me rebutting the dude popping in all "JUST THOUGHTCRIME"

"what has louis ck been accused of?"
"THOUGHTCRIME"

my dude i am fairly certain getting your dick out and masturbating on somebody is no longer a thoughtcrime. it's a dick crime. it's a crime done with the dick

@velexiraptor the article has more details but it's basically that he managed to pin several women into a situation where they felt unable to say no and then justified it to himself as "well they didn't say no to me pulling my dick out and masturbating at them, so it's fine!" right up until the people he harassed this way came forward together.

so... a bit more than thoughtcrime, even without the latest stuff in there

@velexiraptor i'm not sure about the more recent stuff, but during the metoo movement's peak (or aroundabouts), despite making a lot of jokes paying lip service to how women get unfairly harassed and it's wrong etc., he admitted to incidents of sexual harassment/sexual misconduct

he admitted to this and promised to 'step back' here https://www.nytimes.com/2017/11/10/arts/television/louis-ck-statement.html so i'm guessing that the latest debacle is him not stepping back as much as he promised

ok, i think my cishet ass would not be an appropriate audience for Femme's Guide to the Universe, but as an girl who is not that gr8 at girling, i am well tempted to see if any of my femme/sapphic/etc. friends would like a copy that i can quickly flip through when i'm over to visit or something.

because how tf DO you get a garter belt on but panties off