Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

i just misread a post as "quinoa golem" which is a FANTASTIC rock band name

pupdate: dog forgave me for getting up again but not before pointedly staring at me while trying to make a nest on top of my purse where i had laid her favourite (and MY favourite) blanket, approximately 6 inches away from her actual dog bed with her blanket in it.

now she's sitting on me while staring at my dad eating cheese-its

may my dog, who also just got cozy, forgive me for my 'but i want poptarts' related sins

....the infinite sorrow of getting cozy, reaching for your snack, and then remembering

you forgot to actually acquire your snack when you were up

@chaosonwheels23 it's the ultimate cishet power move: I GET TO EXCUSE MYSELF FROM ALL DEBATES ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT SOMEONE NEEDS TO BE CONSIDERED UNDER THE IDENTITY UMBRELLA WITH A "whoops looks like that's not me, bye everyone!" AND JUMPING OUT THE NEAREST WINDOW

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@chaosonwheels23 honestly i might not be writing v well right now due to nyquil lmao, but they were pretty explicit about considering PCOS as a condition alone that can make someone Intersex Enough if they so choose?

i did get the sense though that it's a really rather broad widening of the umbrella, and the fact they explicitly took that stance means that it's probably not without controversy within that community tbh

i guess the takeaway is just that i'm gonna try to stay humble and not be a fucken asshole, and those are pretty good goals i think.

idk my dudes it's about all i got

i still v much run the risk of bumbling into trans femme spaces like an asshole, but i'm hoping that i'll become better at figuring out those lines over time. and when in doubt, i can always just ask.

because, well, it might be a topic where the poster only wants trans femme folks weighing in. or it might be validating to be treated as 'just one of the gals'. who knows! dunno until i ask, right?

or even that they're just fucking tired of explaining the trans experience over and over and are totally ok with that not being on the table. which is also extremely valid.

i figure if i can help ease that burden, just a tad, it's useful work to do, y'know?

so maybe in that avenue, i can sort of help open up something for trans femmes. like, if it becomes more of a thing to go "oh! yeah, my great auntie had to get her beard lasered off haha, sometimes bodies are weird" - if i can help make some things less of an indicator for 'hey i'm trans' - that might be a welcome shelter for somebody when they're in a situation where they don't feel safe outing themselves as trans.

and maybe just normalizing these things *as* someone who is solidly cishet is going to be the greater social action.

like: yeah, some girls have to shave in the morning. yeah, some girls have to remove facial hair. yeah, some girls have acne that comes from too much testosterone on the skin. it's just a thing, no big deal.

like, despite being cishet, i'm rather bad at many aspects of girl-ing so to speak, and i feel like maybe talking frankly about what i've learned - and being excited to share with people what i've learned - is something that's going to be an experience more people will resonate with. like i may be cishet, but i can still offer tips to trans femmes about, say, facial hair removal, from what i've learned as i experienced it.

so i've been trying to think about what i can do outside of that label to still be - again. i'm so sorry everyone. - a decent ally.

i think i might actually be able to have a better effect if i just own up to being solidly cishet and keep on keepin' on, as it were. i feel like perhaps i can make more of a difference in some ways there.

to equate my "sometimes i get annoyed about having to shave" to the suffering of, well, actual intersex people, would just be insulting to them. people can certainly have it a lot worse than me, just with PCOS, or even have it lighter than me in symptoms and still feel like the label of intersex fits them!

but when i think of myself using it... idk, it feels scummy? it doesn't feel right and fitting.

they rather reasonably said that this was something where it is available to people to self-identify. so i've been mulling over that.

and to be honest, i don't think i really feel that pull. massive respect for those who do, but i'll be blunt, that mantle doesn't sit on my shoulders so well. it just feels like me, personally, reaching and trying to feed a line of bullshit to people to get into places i shouldn't be in.

so

again sorry about all these thoughts i'm about to jettison into the universe. but

so

i keep thinking about a rather interesting thing i read while looking up resources for someone awhile back - a tumblr about intersex advocacy. one of their posts was about how they - and thus the blog - did indeed consider PCOS to be a condition in the intersex header, if the person with PCOS thought it so.

and i was like: huh, interesting!

the building... begins

and will continue once i get a snack. #conanexiles

@BestGirlGrace i think you'll probably be ok from a food safety point of view, but honestly it might not be very good chili because of bits just breaking down into mush (tomatoes, meat, etc) and it drying out and sticking to the pot. i'd look @ recipes specifically designed to cook that long, or see if you can do low for 8 hours / keep warm setting for the rest. https://www.facebook.com/YourGourmetLadyPatricia/posts/joes-sunset-24-hour-crockpot-chili-this-is-my-recipe-for-yesterdays-award-winnin/446799098726955/ might be useful to look at for you :>

@jwhamilton_@radical.town so i'm guessing that this train of thought has its origins somewhere in overhearing someone say "well butter my butt and call me a biscuit"

all the scandals aside, let's be honest. i'm not buying or installing #fallout76 until there are private servers, and specifically there is at least one private server for #mbmbam fans.

i'm not going down those country roads until i can be assured that there is somebody roleplaying Boycar, Protector and King of Chilladelphia https://i.pinimg.com/originals/36/ac/b9/36acb9debfb67057773e06279bb76213.gif