Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

anyway back to considering baby shower next weekend lol

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city and similarly, if you are in the kitchen on the sautee station, you probably should not be shocked when it gets a little warm. if you use the same tools and methods - including disregard for another person's feelings, patronizing attitudes, and focusing only on yourself as the victim instead of addressing people you've hurt - you're going to get a similar result, as you're doing the same recipe.

something to keep in mind, i've babbled enough, lol.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city it would have been easy to talk in generalities and not single one person out for harsh critique - or it would have been easy to ask them "hey, i'd like to talk about this topic. do you have input? is it ok if i use some of your content this way?"

people are getting mad at you for "screenshot dunking" because, well, even if that wasn't your intent, you still managed to do it, and hurt people because of it.

so if you start off using toxic tools - don't be surprised i suppose.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city less toxicity is a good goal. but it also requires humbly admitting your own mistakes and toxic behavior.

if you have this going on - and the person you singled out for harsh critique is the one saying "actually i'm not cool with this still" while you are saying "well i apologised and all is well", to boot - i'm not sure why you are surprised that you're getting 'misunderstood', here.

it might be a good time to also consider that you are perhaps not such a victim here, too.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city if you are using "i'm writing an essay about you" in a way that sounds like a threat, in response to using someone's post as an example of some bad behavior you want to highlight - without letting that person know ahead of time, or giving them any sort of indication, just leaving a nasty surprise for them - while making yourself out to be a martyr, with a side order of "see this is why i can't be here with you meanies" flounce...

i'm not sure why you're surprised here.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city to put it more bluntly, if you're expecting to have an adult conversation with people, cooing like a preschool teacher about how "hello stranger, so glad you came in with your outside voice, i hope you find happiness" sabotages your goal. it ends up just reading as a put-down. "hello, idiot. thanks for coming to yell at me, motherfucker, i'm writing an essay so i can expose YOU, too. by the way, i'm just going to mention that i'm fucking enlightened here, not like you plebs."

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city and to be quite honest, this plus your comments with this spirit of "well i have no idea why everyone is mad at me" - well, you might have good points, but it makes you very hard to trust. if comments where you make yourself out to be the victim are right by what is next to positivity, on the same subject, it makes those positive words read as superficial, if not patronizing, insincere, or - ironically - sarcastic.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city not that i know wtf is going on here, just strolling by, but i think this may actually be a strategy that is backfiring on you.

like how sarcasm in tone can get lost in the purely-text-based internet, so can genuine kindness and understanding versus false sweetness.

it ends up quickly reading as patronizing and superficial, especially when further discussed in a tactical way. if it's a stratagem, and you talk about it as such, it reads as superficial instead of sincere.

the rest of the site is tiresome as fuck but https://tacticalbabygear.com/products/tbg-e-b-o-k-emergency-blowout-kit?variant=15429135990874&gclid=Cj0KCQjwla7nBRDxARIsADll0kDGjmr8PCISxmGTQCEYXfG5AunfZZwkczGlMA2aOrI4wA3OJTf8SloaAmvKEALw_wcB see that actually looks intensely practical

also the military theme works when it is, indeed, AW SHIT EMERGENCY (A SHIT EMERGENCY, EVEN)

they say it's perfect for just tossing in the car and that sounds like a fantastic practical thing to me lol, a lot better than drowning everyone in the 19867th cute baby stuffed animal or blanket (which it's Hard to Not Acquire because Cute but there's only so many of those a kid needs)

ok egregiously gendered shit is tiresome, however, i have found an instance of it that genuinely makes me laugh and i'm going to get for my cousin and his wife for their baby shower: an 'emergency blowout kit' with disposable changing mat, wipes, new diaper, etc. packaged like a military MRE

1. deadass practical, 2. less 'i can only be a dad if it's camo' and more 'THIS IS INDEED AN EMERGENCY THANK GOODNESS YOU PUT A KIT IN THE CAR'

i am now... ready for shadowbringers.

what no i haven't pre-ordered the xpack or anything like that. but i DID get my viera's character sheet done, which is obviously more important, sooooooo https://docs.google.com/document/d/1y8w_7kG1ObtWAr6AxLORpW6ndi4yatdMOA49b-to-Rc/edit?usp=sharing

finally managed to put a pen to paper (ok digital paper close enough) and draw my viera before shadowbringers happens properly in #ffxiv , documenting her scars and her tattoo for #ffxivrp purposes (which right now is uhhh me rping in my head only o well.)

her tattoo is partially 'medicinal', an icelandic rune, lásabrjótur, meant to help 'free from fetters' - in her case, the fetters being the limp caused by her old wound

cw'd for nonsexual nudity

woah, i did not expect this small story sidequest to end up so explicitly pro-union in #ffxiv

i would be interested to know if it ends up reading the same in japanese, etc. - if it still has that moral of "ala mhigan refugee workers know collective bargaining is the only way to get a fair deal after uniting, even in the face of a 'kind' employer", and uses those same vocab terms

i wonder if it's at all connected to the pro-union sentiments snowballing in the games industry? (i can hope?)

ah yes, the #spoonie feeling of watching everyone have a fantastic time at conventions while you are stuck at home in a flare :')

@randostartrek yeah ok

@Sapphicgiraffic@snouts.online when suddenly someone plucks a leaf off, and you shout

"what the fuck, come back with my sofa, i just paid so many bells for that"

one of the contenders for "it's our 10 year friendiversary and that's apparently tin or aluminum" gift is

this

vintage jello mold

look at this fish's face. this fish has SEEN some shit. this fish has seen THE HORRORS OF WAR and aspics with jello in em