Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

subtooting, while also bad, at least gives a chance for the *behavior* to be discussed instead of the *person*. you can argue that it has more social utility there because with that distance, you can get people examining bad behaviors - and checking themselves for those bad behaviors, too.

again, in an ideal world there would be neither. but i'm not going to pretend i haven't subtooted also, lol.

and while both methods end up robbing the person targeted of agency to participate in the conversation, only screenshot dunking then explicitly, from the outset, identifies them as the persona non grata target.

this ends up being a straight-up harassment tactic, even when it was not intended to be such. good ideas can still end up falling into this pitfall by specifically holding up a single person as Bad (tm).

in short, it's additional information, and why that additional information is being included, and how that additional information has usually been used online.

screenshot dunking includes the username. it means that the point of bad behavior is not anonymized whatsoever.

usually this is done online with a specific purpose. the subtext is a call to action of harassment against a specific individual.

the first question is something that i think is often accepted innately as a matter of local mores, but is worth discussing explicitly from time to time.

in an ideal world there would be no subtoots OR screenshot dunking. that's something to certainly strive for, and an ideal that i also fail to achieve.

however the cultural begrudging acceptance of subtoots versus screenshot dunking is worth teasing apart and considering imho.

so as a random asshole that's just kinda seen this drift past, not really having a stake in this either way - but seeing some patterns repeated, same-day even (!) - i think that as the dust settles, it might be a good opportunity ponder shit. specifically, 2 questions:

1. what makes 'screenshot dunking' especially bad over subtoots?

2. what is effective moderation, and the push-pull of public vs. private actions?

@InspectorCaracal honestly i can't remember off the top of my head - mostly pern, way back in middle school, because everyone told me that i'd love them and i tried about three and just couldn't make it past the second chapter or so every time lol

Black Horses For The King was a book i got on vacation and gobbled up on the ride home, so i may also be viewing it with rose-tinted glasses of nostalgia LOL

i gotta admit, homestuck as a thing only for kiddos does baffle me slightly, mostly because the story format is a send-up of old text adventure games, which is a genre that has not been in the popular public imagination for a hot goddamn minute. a twelve year old doesn't know what zork is, lol. i *barely* do and i'm 30.

i mean, i still personally find homestuck odious, overgrown, and needing a machete taken to it for a ruthless edit to be readable, but i'm not sure why it's kiddie fodder.

@InspectorCaracal man i should really give mccaffrey another chance

pern on paper seems like My Shit but for some reason whenever i've tried to read it, it's always been like gnawing on concrete.

i will say tho that if you've never read Black Horses For The King, it's the one book of hers that i genuinely really enjoy, and well-recommended

-cerave and cetaphil are both wretched and awful things you shouldn't bother to put on your face.

-vegan cosmetics might not actually be a good ideal and i'd rather have crushed up bugs than "we can only say this is a pressed pigment bc it's not actually approved for use on eyes"

-hormonal birth control is going to be something looked at in 80 years as "i can't believe they'd be so stupid and inhumane"

@BabaIsBot

ok have an old picture of hollydog and then goodnight, fediverse

(this is the "you had cookies and didn't give me any >:(" glare)

the whole occasional rancid fart thing i'm calling a draw, since i'm sure i dutch oven her plenty since she sleeps under the covers

my dog's one fault is that she loves me mostly because i have cookies

but i forgive her.

there are so many good dogs in okami top game

the only way it could be better is if you could pet the dogs but you are a dog so that is a pretty good reason why you can't pet them.

i do wish there was a "demand pets and belly rubs" command for just going up to human npcs and whining

there's only so many times you can realize you're most of the way to having natural drill curls before you just accept that it's destiny and order some motherfuckin tiaras

me, gazing at this one curl i have that always wants to be perfectly formed:

i didn't choose the hime life.......... the hime life chose me

@monorail tbh the more i sort of observe this all going on, i'm pretty sure the dude is just the resident missing stair

"oh he's just like that, ignore him" is a test for 'are you cool enough to hang with us' at this point. doing anything about it is not something worth consideration. the onus is on everyone else to learn where the missing stair is, apparently, lol

@mwlucas @June@kitty.town well, yes, and also needs to know the source of the confusion. therapy is, after all, a partnership - a back and forth - a dialog. if you're unhappy with your therapist, i encourage you to go find another that you are more comfortable with, so that you feel empowered to ask your therapist things like "could you be more specific". you are, after all, paying them. i'm just a rando shmuck on the internet who jumped in with perhaps-topical advice to a stranger. v: