Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

"hey wiggly, didn't you just go on a long extended aside about rebutting cringe culture?"

well yes, but, even i have standards. and a tube of Exotic Butters chapstick next to me.

o internet, what is an appropriate amount of shame to have about owning a chapstick that is flavored to be a FNAF joke?

oh. it does help if i actually bring my plate full of meds with me to sit down, if i want to take them.

she's beauty, she's grace, she's

snoring into one of my usb ports

#hollypls #dogsofmastodon

@vantablack way way too long if there's any meat or sour cream. if it's just veggies - JUST veggies - you might be able to get away with it IF you're feeling lucky (but that's a very big if)

honestly so many ebooks bot posts give me pause because they ALMOST make sense and it makes my brain go "no no hold up let's reread that five times"

before i notice the ebooks bot part of the username

and sincerity is scary. it means letting people in, and that can be terrifying.

but, to sound like a goddamn cheezy middle schooler's poem, letting people in is how you can connect with them as *you*. you have to open the door to let them see *you* first, before you can connect with them.

and those connections are indeed sincerely worth it.

ok, there's great aunt wiggly's talk for the night i guess, i'm gonna go scrub this face mask off

there's a bigger debate here, of course, about if online communities can ever reflect the gestalt beings that are humans in reality, or if at any time humans can reflect every aspect of themselves at all times,

but you don't have to compress yourself down so tightly, i think.

if there are places that want you to compress yourself down that small, maybe push back a little.

maybe decide to take up a bit more space in being sincere.

will it make you less 'quoteable' or 'memeable'? maybe. will it make something that might get you less boosts and favourites? maybe.

but if your online interaction is complete insincerity, you're not looking at interacting with people as much as you are looking at trying to market a product. and *being* that product is going to be exhausting. you are more than a product, and you deserve to sincerely connect with other human beings.

be sincere! be wildly sincere! be honest in your loves and dislikes! tell your friends you love them, tell people whose content you've enjoyed how much you've enjoyed it, tell the world how much you like things!

and when you're struggling, be sincere about how you're struggling; you will find that is a great way for people to also sincerely offer help and support!

be sincere in who you are! it's frightening, but it's worthwhile! i promise!

sincerity gets pushed out as 'not on-brand' and 'not fitting in here', as 'childish' or 'stupid'. but it's sincerity that we most often use to relate to one another as people and as fellow human beings.

'cringe culture' is entirely built around the antithesis of sincerity, you know? if you sincerely like a thing, if you get really enthusiastic about it, that's 'cringey' and there's a huge push to shut it down.

i don't know if these 'don't be sincere' impulses need to be fed more, tbh.

i guess that bothers me in part because i think sincerity is something that online communication easily loses, and that people are pushed to lose.

sincerity is, for lack of a better term, not very marketable. simply because sincerity is so individualized.

but i also see meme culture trapping people into vortexes of irony and pithy quips. and those things are nice, but they don't often make a fulfilling life on those things alone.

obviously i should embark on my new career of being a pro domme for the furry set by blasting "perfect isn't easy" from oliver and company wherever i go

I HAVE YOUR HEARTS~ AND YOU HAVE MY PITY~

@Hmmwat yeah sure! i believe https://knzk.me/@seagazelle/100840279067697173/ should be the link to it!

@Hmmwat i just saw it listed as some common/recommended cws, which is a fairly nice list because there is admittedly stuff i keep forgetting about - food, eye contact for instance - but it... also does make me genuinely a little bit worried.

i'm not trying to shame anybody, i'm just like being everybody's worried great aunt, because i feel like that may be feeding an expectation to be "on" and "performing" all the time that is exhausting and unsustainable

ok i realize this is largely a cultural difference, as it were, since i am very new to mastodon, the local vibe, and so on, but

@ the people who cw for sincerity:

are.... are y'all ok? are y'all good? do... do you want to like sit down and talk about it? because i'm worried about you. you don't have to be a constant funnyman making sweet memes for consumption. you can just be. i promise! i promise. come sit down and have a cup of hot cocoa, it's going to be ok.

@sickasfrick@slime.global oooohhhh i'm gonna go look this up, thank you!

i would also like to recommend - though less for history, with occasional detours - super bunnyhop, who is one of the few channels i watch because Holy Shit, Gaming Journalism With Actual Journalism In It

well nevermind, the secrets of vegan cream cheese frosting will go unknown for another day because apparently when cinnaholic says "open to 9" they mean "closed a 7:15" so if anyone needs me i'm going to sulk into my oatmeal

anyway cinnaholic says everything they have is vegan. now, a vegan cinnamon roll, i will grant you, that is doable. ...but i'm not sure how this vegan cream cheese icing is going to go. (i'm hoping maybe it's the lone non-vegan thing in the store, and that information has been lost on the menu of the company i am using to deliver them to me for dinner.)