Etiquette question:
Boosting, sure, no problem.
But favoriting? When do you avoid favoriting? A post I agree with, but it details a tragedy. It doesn't feel right to favorite that. I've seen those posts favorited, but it feels like advocating for the tragedy.
Am I overthinking this?
@KBaileyBooks @ScottSoCal
at least here it's a little star and not a heart like on certain other sites
@KBaileyBooks or maybe you can be a little more personal and offer words rather than the complacency of an easily misinterpreted action that you're enjoying someone else's suffering
@mavica_again sometimes I do, but I also know from a time of grief processing messages from everyone can be overwhelming. There’s only so many times you can hear, I’m so sorry, especially from strangers.
@KBaileyBooks there's only so many times i can hear, "stranger has favourited ⭐ your post 'everything sucks so much and i want to die'"
@mavica_again @KBaileyBooks i do the same thing kristen does. sometimes figuring out the right words to say costs more #spoons than i have at the time, but i still want the person to know they're seen/heard and loved. 😞 💜
@ScottSoCal nope i specifically dislike people enjoying that i'm having a bad time and that is the only thing likes and favourites transmit to me no matter what their true intents are
@ScottSoCal I don't think so. I used to employ a method on the bird site where I would retweet support and add a like if it were positive. I'm boosting here, and favoriting when I want to keep it, though that seems to replicate the Bookmark function. It's the subtle cues from the UI/UX that we read as intent. You don't derive enjoyment from a murder report, but you would share it with people.
Makes sense :)
@ScottSoCal I'd loved to see an "emotionless" reaction slider, something like this:
|-3 - -2 - -1 - + - +1 - +2 - +3-|
Emoji reactions are nice, too. F@%kbook has a nice set. Telegram's overcompensates, but I appreciate the effort.
@ScottSoCal I think of favoriting as letting someone know that what they had to say was seen by someone, noticed and absorbed for the reason it was shared. I do favorite sad things so people know that sadness didn’t just disappear into a void and they are not alone.