+, trans
Hearing a transphobe turn around and validate you and learn is more validating than hearing something from ally
+, trans
@cogitoergofemme
That, does not sound healthy.
+, trans
@Sylvhem
But basing validation from reactionaries and oppressors sound like a bad idea. They should be the one seeking forgiveness, not us.
@cogitoergofemme
+, trans
@danishcookies @Sylvhem fam I had a reaction. I'm not analysing my every emotion. I just live.
Plus how else can a person come to the truth rather than to react. They have to be met with some story or love. People don't change their mind based on arguments they change when they meet real people who challenge their mindset.
And I'm not BASING anything. I'm having an emotional response. I can't just not to that.
~, trans
@Sylvhem @danishcookies please don't tell me it's unhealthy to enjoy being gendered correctly. I have trouble internalising validation because I don't believe people mean it. Seeing someone make a 180 the way they did (context too long of a story) blows that away.
~, trans
@cogitoergofemme
Do what you must to maintain your own wellbeing. Just, don't forget that them throw us a bone isn't in anyway an indication that they have really changed at all.
@Sylvhem
