I'm in serious need of new plans
look I think my therapist really messed up my sense of what I can and can't do even more? Always "yeah you think you can't do that, but I think you can" and never like… actually being allowed to find out and maybe end up saying no, i can't do that… as if humans didn't have real actual limitations or idk
but that doesn't even matter because, i'm super stuck and i've been super stuck for years and I don't know how to get unstuck, so it really doesn't matter what i actually can and can't do, because, i don't know how to even try anything
@maunzikation I think I might have a similar stuck-feeling. Maybe you can talk to you therapist and tell them that this bothers you and isn't what you need?
@antifahnen I don't see them anymore :/ mostly because they always made a big deal about how good and important it is to talk about issues, but never actually changed anything that I said didn't work for me m)
@maunzikation Ah, I see. If you wanna search for one in the ~future it might be helpful to look for a certain type of therapy.
@antifahnen maybe! I don't really know whether I'd like something before I've tried it though x) (except for some types that are definitely out of the question :D)
@maunzikation I'm currently in a "psychoanalytic orientated" therapy so I can answer questions to that I guess .__.
@antifahnen oh, psychoanalysis is one of the types i'm not really considering for me. but, thank you. does the .___. mean that you don't like it that much? or is it re answering questions?
@distelfliege @antifahnen the therapist that I just stopped seeing does psychodrama x) but I didn't know that before the first appointment (only had her email address), and I liked her so I gave it a try. i don't think the method was the only issue, but I could have guessed that it wouldn't be great either.
@distelfliege @antifahnen mhm, I don't think we actually did a lot of what's typical for it. it's apparently focused on relationships and roles and stuff. for me that meant sometimes choosing stones/little plushies/little figures to represent people in my life or aspects of myself and… pretty much just putting them on the table and talking about them. one typical thing seems to be imagining you're some other person
@antifahnen @distelfliege (sitting in a different chair, getting into their posture) and saying what you think they might think about a certain issue. but we only got to that once, and while it did something positive for me at first, i had the impression that what i said then was kind of used against me because the focus seemed to shift to "100% understanding that person" instead of what that meant for me.