I'd donate to that GoFundMe. And the following one, to get them airline tickets to go.
Sometimes I feel like a robot trying to learn how to use my robot hands. I've got as far as being able to pick up an egg without breaking it. But everyone time I try to hold someone's hand in a comforting way, they get hurt somehow and recoil in horror π£
For anyone that struggles with metaphors, the robot is me, and my attempt to hold someone's hand is me trying to form supportive friendships with new people.
@ndvirons@neurodifferent.me @Autistrain @actuallyautistic
My flirt never fit properly, it chafed, pinched, and sagged. I threw it out.
But they happily voted to support the guy who made repealing Roe happen.
An entire state that flunked connect-the-dots.
I think he deserves less.
@pathfinder
Yes. Light from our neighbor galaxy - Andromeda - has been traveling 250M years. We don't see what's there now, we're seeing what it looked like when dinosaurs were roaming this planet.
That kind of nugget blows me away.
@simid@neurodifferent.me @actuallyautistic
@pathfinder @simid@neurodifferent.me @actuallyautistic
For me, it's pictures of the universe, or even just staring up at the sky at night. The scale, the intricate dance of gravity that controls every interaction from dust motes to galactic clusters. It's awe inspiring.
@petherfile @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
Routines and checklists (even mental ones) are what makes my life possible. If something interrupts my checklist, chaos reigns.
@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic routine saves me. Unless routine changes with covid19 and I get a kidney stone... That wasn't fun.
I just started shaving my head, at home in the shower. Takes all the stress out of it.
My regular hairdresser has moved away. Had to get my haircut. Didn't try one i used once before because they did appointments and somehow that makes it more stressful. Going to a new place is stressful...
* i'd better wash my hair before i go, but it can't be too wet because that's probably weird
* it seems to be full of cool people. i'm not a cool person, is everyone thinking "look at the uncool person"
* do i need an appointment?
* i can't find the prices. what if I get my haircut and its really expensive?
* do i explain in great detail what bits to cut or give them some leeway? he must be wondering how much to cut off surely.
* do i do smalltalk if they aren't talking to me? start thinking of smalltalk topics just in case (football, holidays)
* do i move my head or wait for them to move it?
* he isn't cutting it short enough, do i now tell him to cut it shorter or wait till next time
* how much do i tip?
* oh no my haircut is taking a long time and others are waiting. the other person got theirs done in half the time
* is he slow or taking extra care to win me as a future customer?
* does he think i'm a weirdo? i bet he's thinking it the whole time
* he's offered me a drink. i'm really thirsty but i say no because it's all so awkward
* the other hairdresser is glancing at me while doing the other person. is it because he doesn't recognise me, or because my haircut is taking so long and there's people waiting?
* is this song on repeat? it sounds like the previous 2 songs
* do I now have to come back here forever because i've been once?
* why is he spending so long on my neck, i can't even see that bit
* why did he not offer me a mirror to see the back of my neck - that's what they usually do - has he carved his name in the back of my head?
* what if i come back next time and the previous person is cutting someone else's hair, is there a social rule that says i need to wait for the person who did mine last time, or can i just use the other person if they are free?
everyone else looks relaxed, but i'm exhausted.
@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic
I can put it off several times, because I'm in the middle of something and it isn't convenient right now, so I'll do it later.
Eventually it hits me so hard I can't put it off, and that's when I do the pee dance in front of the urinal, and hope I get my zipper unzipped fast enough.
Do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades have an issue with knowing when to go to the bathroom?
So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.