ScottinSoCal πΊπ¦ π π³βπ @ScottSoCal@computerfairi.es
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So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.
Joined Nov 2022
For decades, climate scientists have been talking about the best-case possibility, because they didn't want to seem alarmist and be dismissed out of hand. Turns out we're not getting the best-case. Imagine that.
βThereβs not a βweirdβ acceleration happeningβ in the Earthβs climate, said Noah Diffenbaugh, a scientist at Stanford University. βThereβs an expected acceleration happening.β #ClimateChange https://mstdn.ca/@shawngoldwater/110996100603381847
I used to, but for the last few years I've been getting a variation on that. I have a rescue parrot, Scooter, who I'm guessing was bred in captivity because she's never learned to fly. Instead of me falling, I dream I'm at some very tall place and Scooter gets hit by a gust of wind, or startles and flaps, and she's falling. It happens a couple of times a week.
I'd guess it's tied up with my being very bothered that she's a bird who doesn't know how to fly.
While that may be useful for NT people, for many ND people, this is how we show empathy. We relate it to something we've experienced that also made us feel [happy/sad/grief/lonely/excited]. It isn't about "look at me", it's "I understand, and I feel for you".
One of the best things about the rise of the internet is that everyone thinks their physical life experience is "the norm", so even when things are uncomfortable they generally think "well everyone is dealing with this so I can't complain." Especially if it's is common in your immediate family!
Now we have conversations with people way outside our families are find out that some things are not widely shared (or are, but in different sub groups).
So helpful <3
Find the right shoes. When I started walking I wore my regular shoes, and they hurt me, especially my joints. I started getting good shoes, with very cushiony soles, and it was immediately better.
I've had good luck with walking. Granted, my pace is faster than most people walk (4 miles per hour), but that's just how I walk. At the end of an hour I've worked up a good sweat, and I'm totally relaxed. A couple of those a day does it for me.
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Aha! I still have that rat mug somewhere.
Willow Springs 1987: crashing on my very first day on the track in the "new racers" school and waking up as a conveyor belt was transporting me inside the dome of a CAT scanner; which, having never been in one before, looked remarkably like the inside of an alien spacecraft.
For me it depends why I'm traveling. For work? Yes, non-stop stress. For personal, with absolutely no agenda, no list of must-do, nothing I can't put off or even scrap if I change my mind? I love that kind of travel. I plan the route and destination down to the minute, but once I've checked into the hotel, I'm relaxed again. Until the day before I leave to go home.
Yes, and it does depend. If I'm around other people, I clamp down on that, hard.
Too many of them would enjoy it.
Looks like the Republican Indiana state Attorney General is now demanding transgender health care records, too.
As @KrissyKat pointed out, they try their tricks out on the trans community first before going after other targets. Probably because we're tiny in number and typically don't have much political clout.
https://sfba.social/@KrissyKat@hoosier.social/110984934397063691
Another book on #autism, "Autism and Asperger syndrome in adults", by Dr Luke Beardon. I had seen him interviewed in a BBC programme on autism and was curious to read some of his work. The book is short and easy to read, and it's written as a dialogue with the autistic reader, discussing things that the autistic person should consider when choosing where to study at uni, where to work, whether to disclose their diagnosis (which he calls "identification", and I love that) etc. It's full of examples from the real life of autistic people and shows how amazing they can be. It's an overview based firmly on the social model, so doesn't go in depth, and it's largely uplifting and provides some practical guidance.
#DrLukeBeardon #AutismAndAspergerSyndromInAdults @bookstodon @actuallyautistic
Ya know, I don't really mind the "automatic reaction" part, it's the dwelling on it for days afterward, replaying the moment it went sideways, and thinking of what *should* have happened.
I know these rules in theory, and sometimes in practice, but I'm always messing up in live conversation @FrightenedRat.
There's just too much to process for me to remember these things, especially when dealing with strangers or several people at once.
I've unfortunately internalised a lot of the judgement involved, so every time I catch myself "interacting wrong" I have to deal with the automatic reaction of shame and embarrassment.
Regardless of whether you were diagnosed early or later in life, you may have spent years suppressing your autistic identity and conforming to neurotypical norms. Our focus will be on self-advocacy, unmasking, and cultivating self-care and self-regulation techniques.
Let's embark on this empowering journey together! My #ActuallyAutistic workshops are built in order to create community and bring together like-minded autistic people looking to grow their autistic self. We are all looking to find or get further in touch with our inner lives and unmask and live authentically.
https://www.theautisticcoach.com/autistic-self-advocacy-unmasking-exploring-the-autistic-self
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This will sound sarcastic, but it's not. I handle it by discouraging people from sharing personal issues. As long as we're sticking to things that are business related, I'm on known ground.
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- So gay. So, so gay.
- JoeMyGod
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So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.
Joined Nov 2022
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