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a while ago i knew a few (poly!) people who were adamant that polyamory isn’t queer, because straight cis people can want to date multiple people and then claim to be queer when they don’t actually have any clue what it’s like to be gay, trans, etc.

having just seen numerous people call polyamory “disgusting,” i really feel like this take erases the bigotry and bias that poly people face. like,

i grew up thinking i was a broken freak because i couldn’t do monogamy. i didn’t even know that poly existed. i didn’t know i wasn’t straight or cis until years later, but failing at monogamy was what 15-year-old rune wrote angsty poems about. doesn’t this sound kinda familiar to any trans people? any aces? etc?

and at least in the US, poly people don’t have marriage equality even in most places where gay marriage is recognized, and where trans people can legally correct the gender on their IDs / birth certificates, etc.

NOT trying to do oppression olympics — different marginalized groups experience different struggles. my point isn’t that it’s worse for poly, just that how can you say that poly people don’t share the “queer experience?” for most of my life it’s felt like poly wasn’t even on the fucking radar. i assumed i would have to “wait my turn” to fight for marriage equality and, ultimately, i expected to die before poly people have marriage equality (and still do).

so complete strangers call me a disgusting whore, tell me i have commitment issues, constantly ask me stupid questions about poly “but aren’t you worried you or your partner will fall in love with someone else?” (that’s the goal, yes!) the same way i got asked stupid questions about being bi “but how do you know you like girls if you’ve never been with one”

so when someone says poly isn’t queer i kinda wanna do violence. stop erasing us, stop belittling us, and stop telling us we’re not welcome at the rainbow table.

[i don’t think this needs to be said here, since fedi is apparently a giant polycule. but i just wanted to get it off my chest. will probably delete after a short bit because i’m not trying to rage-bait either.

edit: though i say it makes me “kinda wanna do violence” i’m just expressing my personal pain at being told my poly-specific oppression “doesn’t count.” i’m a reasonable person and i’m good at listening, so if you have any decent and respectful information on why people think this and the argument for not including poly in queer, you really can share and i promise i won’t bite your face.]

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Biden firmly denounces calls to step aside from fellow Democrats: 'The voters have spoken'

The president said the voters have chosen him and dared Democratic “elites” who want him out to challenge him at the party’s convention next month.
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...able to do more to help.

But I can tell you this, my racist cop dad, the one who divorced my conservative housewife mother, which is why we ended up in section 8 housing... he is dead. And even though I was sent to live with him for two years as a child, his head full of racist stereo types and hate died with him.

Good riddence.

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No alt text? During disability awareness month? damn...

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It's the cocoa van.

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Seems to me after last week’s Supreme Court Immunity decision the choice for Americans comes down to either Mad King Donny or Sometimes-forgetful King Joe.

The idea that Kamala Harris is not eligible for office because of her family background is not only absurd, it’s racist & dangerous. America continues to be haunted by a form of nationalism, rooted in white supremacy, that thrives on lies that vilify people of color. Disgusting.

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