I've been on Masto for several years, but not very active. I recently changed instances, and never did an #introduction post before, so here we go!
I'm a photographer based on Halifax, NS, Canada, though my day job is as a software developer. My main interests are, in no particular order, #photography, home #baking & #cooking, #programming, #security, #equality, and #cats. Many others, but yeah.
My own posts will be mostly photography focused, and with that, here's a photo of my fluffy boy.
Myself, my wife, and two children (who are all also autistic) are all animal people. We often have multiple pets and form relationships with them.
Personally, I find animals more predictable than NT people! At least I can usually figure out animal motivations (food, attention, fear, etc). NT humans, not so much. #ActuallyAutistic
@eidolies @TheAutisticTooter@autistics.life @actuallyautistic
Contrasting point - for things like this, there could be last minute changes that are valid and necessary. Instead of no changes, I'd put in that changes must be in writing, and include the contract cost adjustments.
@TheAutisticTooter@autistics.life @melanie @ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic
Phrased that way, it is wishful (hopeful?) thinking. Try this:
"I keep doing the same thing, I leverage that to get better opportunities, and, because my work is good, I create my own break"
Actively promote your work. Approach new groups with a portfolio of your best. Don't wait for them to offer, approach them.
@Binder I had the same problem. But when I asked my doctor he rudely said to shove them up my ass.
@SrRochardBunson @SallyStrange @mike Iβm retired now, and was not especially good with money. The thing that saved my bacon was two union jobs that gave me pensions. Unionization is not just a living wage and accountable management, itβs the entire end of your life.
Tina Turner was the Queen of Rock N' Roll.
She was literally more important than Elvis. If you don't believe me, look through the entirety of her career.
Not only did Tina witness the birth of Rock N' Roll, she pioneered it.
Mick Jagger admits to cribbing his stage moves from her.
David Bowie worshipped the ground she walked on.
Her run in the 80s was the single greatest comeback of all time -- regardless of genre -- demonstrating that "old" people belong on centre stage.
Tina: a woman so badass she was the villainous in Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome.
And. you know what? She did all this while combatting so many obstacles and trauma. But she never gave up. Hers was not a story of tragedy but triumph.
Thanks to @Deglassco@mastodon.social for sharing this. The world just lost a true icon π’
RE: https://mastodon.social/users/Deglassco/statuses/110436308375211796
@payaldhar @cvwillegen @neuralex @actuallyautistic @jeanoappleseed@vivaldi.net
The first time I had a gout flare-up I didn't know what it was, so I just let it go for a couple of weeks, until I couldn't take it anymore. The doctor was surprised I waited, lectured me that I could have caused permanent join damage by waiting, then told me what to do if it ever happened again. A little pill I have to take. Fortunately it's only happened once after that. I researched what not to eat.
@cvwillegen @neuralex @actuallyautistic @jeanoappleseed same. Masking and upbringing both taught me that putting up with pain is βstrongβ. We were taught to grin and bear it. Itβs only now I realise that itβs at the scale of excruciating that I would ask for help.
@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics
I don't. I apologize, if I think I was in the wrong or went too far, otherwise I leave it alone.
How do my #ActuallyAutistic comrades explain meltdowns to others?
Yeah, I haven't had a good flying dream in years. I miss them.
@ScottSoCal @actuallyautistic I have had lucid dreams my entire life but much more so when I was younger, probably late teens through late twenties. Once I realized it I knew if I woke up from a bad dream I could go back to sleep and change the outcome. Then after some of that I realized I could change a dream the first go round, as it was happening. I could also fly in dreams, very realistic feeling, which doesn't happen nearly as often now either.
A thing that comes up because of last night...
Anyone else in here have lucid dreams? You know you're dreaming, and you can either change the dream, or wake yourself up? I get nightmares fairly often, but most of the time I tell myself (in the dream) that I'm dreaming and change it. If it won't change, I can wake myself up. I've read it isn't common generally, but is it maybe more common with autism?
So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.