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@ScottSoCal it helps if you reformulate "why" as "what is the purpose of this meeting?". "Why" has, in general, an undertone of negativity, "What's the purpose?" is more goal-oriented. And yet, equally to the point.
Give it a try.

@MariaHill @Heimdall Affirmative Action benefited Clarence Thomas, now he wants to make sure that it never benefits anyone else ever again.

@DataDrivenMD

And the 8,000,000 people who use CPAP machines, along with their friends and family, heave a collective yawn.

The media is tripping over itself because Pres. Biden wears a CPAP machine. Meanwhile, Mitch McConnell randomly shows up to work with purple bruises all over his face and the former guy nearly died when he got COVID, and Clarence Thomas was hospitalized for several days within the last year. The absence of editorial perspective is contributing to the destruction of American democracy

There are two types of Star Trek fans in the Bay Area. Those who can't look at the Golden Gate without seeing Starfleet Academy behind it, and those of us who are waiting for the Bell Riots.

@wdlindsy
"according to an upcoming book by a former administration official"

Who cravenly didn't say a word about it until it could become a blurb in their book.

"Stephen Miller, one of Donald Trumpโ€™s top immigration advisers, advocated using U.S. predator drones in 2018 to blow up migrant boats full of unarmed civilians, according to an upcoming book by a former administration official."

~ Asawin Suebsaeng

#Republicans #immigrants #cruelty #StephenMiller

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@loops @nellie_m @actuallyautistic @benjamincox

I handle that by responding "Why are you inviting me to this meeting?" if the purpose isn't made clear on the invite.
I've been told some people have interpreted that as hostile. I see it as to-the-point.

@nellie_m @actuallyautistic @benjamincox indeed - after asking to be told what was expected from me for different meetings, for example, or being invited no later than 24hrs ahead unless a real emergency so I could prepare, I was told

"That's not how we currently work, so you have to figure something out on your end to handle it"

I gave up trying to explain 'accommodation' ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ

Sotomayorโ€™s discussion of the majorityโ€™s disregard for #precedent is crucially important. She shows the lawlessness of the decision, the same lawlessness shown in cases like #Dobbs and #Bruen, other decisions where the current right-wing majority ignores settled case law and substitutes its own radical conclusions without any basis in law or fact. This is, as Iโ€™ve argued elsewhere, quintessentially tyrannical. 8/ #FAIRvHarvard #LawFedi

Itโ€™s time to end legacy admissions. Each year thousands of students are admitted to colleges around the nation only because their parents went there.

Legacy admissions are back-door discriminatory policies that overwhelmingly advantage wealthy, white students over everyone else.

Never forget that the thing that made it possible for #SCOTUS to kill affirmative action was racist Republican voters electing the most dangerous traitor in US history who appointed paid-off justices that perjured themselves in confirmation hearings.

How can we possibly fix racial injustice and achieve racial equity if we cannot acknowledge race at all?

"Climate change? What climate change? I don't see any extreme weather."

....probably Trump.

re: Gonna be at home alone this weekend and wanted to post about it. Ended up being a bit of a long ramble... 

@benx @actuallyautistic

I recognized a few years ago that I actually don't need frequent human contact, and I'm perfectly comfortable spending time alone, with my dogs and parrot. But yeah, I was "supposed" to want more. I "should" want more. Something was clearly wrong with me.

Now I know what it is, and that it's not wrong, for me.

Gonna be at home alone this weekend and wanted to post about it. Ended up being a bit of a long ramble... 

@actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

My partner, who I live with, left to go on a trip this morning (GMT+1). For the next few days, I will have the house to myself.

About an hour ago, I suddenly realised that I could very easily end up having no human contact until my partner gets back on Monday. As a result, I could end up spiralling mentally and not taking care of myself physically.

While I am someone who appreciates having time to myself, I have learned to recognise that having no human interaction can also be very bad for me too.

___

Before I was diagnosed as being autistic, it's times like this where I would start feeling really bad and negative about myself.

I'd feel like a loser. I feel like no-one likes me, because if they did I would already have social plans organised this weekend, or people would be getting in touch with me to invite me to things.

And then, I'd get stuck on how to resolve this issue.

___

Back then, like now, I'd want to have human contact but I'd have no idea how to go about getting the human contact that I needed. It would feel overwhelming.

I would blame myself. I'd feel sad that other people are able to socially interact much easier than I was able to.

I'd feel sad that I wasn't "normal".

___

I knew something wasn't right but I had no idea what it was.

How could I be so "smart" and yet not be able to figure out such a "simple" thing as how to interact with other people?

How could I get high grades in my school work, and yet have no idea how to build and maintain the types of social relationships that I wanted to build?

___

If I hadn't been formally diagnosed as being autistic, I would be feeling the same way now, as I did back then.

But now everything makes a lot more sense.

My diagnosis has given me clarity about so, so many of my past social interactions that left me feeling guilty and anxious.

So much of my life has been spent feeling sad and alone and unlovable.

___

I don't feel bad about all that stuff anymore, but I still feel sad.

It can be hard not to wonder how my life would have turned out in alternate timeline - What if I had been diagnosed much earlier in life? What if I had been granted the accommodations I needed at school and in the workplace, in order to feel more comfortable in those spaces?

___

I don't feel like a loser anymore. I'm just... different. That's the reason why a lot of people don't understand me and I don't understand them.

I'm not going to have to same type of social life that other people have. And that's fine.

How is this weekend going to turned out?

I don't know.

I won't be wasting any of this weekend thinking and worrying about how to make allistic people like me more, though. And, to me, that's a win.

#autism

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