For many of us knowing we were different was just something we grew up with. As we aged and progressed through school it was only ever amplified as those around us grew in ways that we didn't, as the ways in which we were trying to grow were highlighted and more often than not vilified. When they were known. Because many, perhaps most, of us grew adapt at hiding those differences, masking our confusion, our difference in justified fear and from our perspective then, shame. For those of us who are older the shame came from having no explanation for ourselves, no means of explaining or learning what it could mean. Pre-internet all we had was tv and films, books and magazines and no where in them did we see ourselves, or at least not in any away that was positive or could even be considered a role mode or a guide for what we could become. Our difference became only the evidence of how broken and wrong we were and something to be hidden at all cost. A dark and terrible secret that must never come out.
So when we finally began to learn what we could be, what our difference could mean, there is a history of hiding and of shame, to overcome. A lifetime of feeling wrong and broken and unjustified. Is it any wonder then that we fear to do this, to accept the truth of who we are. So common is there the need to seek external verification for this, in official diagnosis, in the confirmation of others who we think might be like us. A fear of taking a place that we are not qualified for. Because in the past this has never gone well for us and we fear now for a repeat. We fear also being wrong. Of finally finding an answer, but for it only to be a mirage. Perhaps our final hope extinguished. To have to go back into the darkness of hiding, feeling even more broken and hopeless than before.
And so everything has to be proved over and over again. Each step forward tentative and fearful, fulling expecting it to be the last upon this journey. Each doubt, point of difference between us and others and example of individuality amplified and proof only that we are wrong. That we do not belong here anymore than we have belonged anywhere and that we are truly the imposter we secretly fear ourselves to be and people wonder why imposter syndrome is so common amongst us and so hard to defeat.
@Zumbador @ScottSoCal 2) Stop using subtext in conversations and say what you mean!
3) And stop assuming there's some hidden subtext in what I'm saying, because there isn't!
@ScottSoCal @EugeneMcParland His vision and confidence is really amazing. The general themes have really not changed from his inauguration, but considering they're in the middle of a war, it's amazing how quickly they're pushing forwards. There are genuine good faith domestic criticisms of him, but I try to impress upon Ukrainians that he is the best outward-facing representative they could possibly hope for. He is universally beloved minus a small, loud group of extremists.
For those suggesting ways to get my credit score higher, I actually have a score hovering close to 800, run my own successful business, and have zero missed payments in over 30 years on any credit card, car loan, or rent payment.
It's not a matter of building score. It's about hoarding wealth. The generation above me has it, and mine doesn't, and the system is designed to keep it that way.
@ScottSoCal @JustTooOdd and after that, New Orleans.
The victorious Ukraine will be a country worthy of its heroes - President's speech at the plenary session of the Verkhovna Rada on the occasion of the 27th anniversary of the adoption of the Constitution
Intro
Glory to Ukraine
With these words β "Glory to Ukraine" β our brave heroes, courageous Ukrainians on the frontline look the enemy in the eye β with dignity, confidence, and perseverance They defend lives for Ukraine. They give their lives for #Ukraine
Full addressπhttps://www.president.gov.ua/en/news/ukrayina-peremogi-bude-krayinoyu-gidnoyu-svoyih-geroyiv-vist-83869
@OlgaPatlyuk @ScottSoCal oh good! Itβs not just me.
Also those are all beautiful π
Our stove top has touch controls. It's ridiculous. Ah yes, I will touch the glass top of my stove with my fingers while using it, thereby risking injury or at the very least having to put my finger on a greasy stove top. Because when people cook on a stove top, grease splatters out of hot pans all over. Who the fuck thought this was a good idea? For the love of god just give me some fucking knobs
You know what knobs are also good for? Going instantly from any setting to any other setting. With this touch interface bullshit if I wanna turn off one hob from the highest setting without turning off all hobs I have to plonk my finger down and wait for it to slowly cycle down from 9 to 0, going through all full and half digits on the way
If this is what a "luxury cooking experience" feels like I don't fucking want it
@ScottSoCal Wait? There's an agenda? And nobody told me. π
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Every time I create something new, I want to tell and show it to everyone. Apparently, each piece of jewelry has a piece of my soul, transmits energy.
https://www.etsy.com/shop/HappyJewelryHelga
The Stonewall Riots began on today's date, June 28, in 1969. That's why LGBTQ+ Pride Month is celebrated in June.
In 2011, PBS aired an excellent documentary about Stonewall, an uprising that helped expand and transform #LGBTQ activism.
Raw footage of 48 interviews conducted for the documentary are streamable through the website of the American Archive of Public Broadcasting. https://americanarchive.org/special_collections/stonewall-uprising-interviews
#Pride #Stonewall #gay #bi #trans #lesbian #queer #LGBTQ #QueerHistory #LGBTQHistory
President of Ukraine πΊπ¦ Volodymyr #Zelenskyy held a meeting with President of the Republic of #Poland π΅π± Andrzej Duda and President of the Republic of #Lithuania π±πΉ Gitanas NausΔda,
Congratulating Ukraine's friends and partners, Zelenskyy noted the importance of their visit today β on the Constitution Day of our state.
Read more hereπ https://www.president.gov.ua/en/news/volodimir-zelenskij-zustrivsya-z-prezidentami-polshi-ta-litv-83873
#Ukraine πΊπ¦ #SlavaUkraine
#Π‘Π»Π°Π²Π°Π£ΠΊΡΠ°ΡΠ½Ρ! #StandWithUkraine
@ScottSoCal also... Ker-ching! π°π°π°π€
It is not even 2pm yet and my day has been rather eventful:
1. Went grocery shopping.
2. Picked up a prescription from CVS.
3. Got another prescription moved.
4. Cut my hair.
5. Unclogged the bathroom sink. I had a notion that it was clogged but I had proof today after my haircut. (Yes, I cut my hair myself.)
6. Took a shower.
7. Cleaned the bathroom floor.
8. Profit?
Not sure what else is in store for me today.
Scifi Mastodon, please come to my aid!
I am trying to compile a list of vintage scifi stories that feature Andean Indians able to breath the rarefied atmosphere of the planet Mars.
This is of course impossible, but was a popular motif in scifi back around the 1950s. I seem to remember it appearing in an Arthur C. Clarke science fact book, then appearing in several stories by other authors. But I can't remember the titles or authors.
I think one was Crucifixus Etiam, by Walter Miller Jr.
So... me. Work in aerospace, more space, not as much aero. Can fix my own car, choose not to. Can fix the random appliance of your choice. Hardcore introvert in person, which is why I love online. Lifelong science fiction fan. Read constantly. Scalzi is my favorite author, because he mixes exactly the right amount of snark into his writing. Together with a guy 30+ years, married since it was legal. Own a home in CA and don't plan to leave unless I immigrate to another country.