ScottinSoCal 🇺🇦 🕊 🏳‍🌈 @ScottSoCal@computerfairi.es

Seen on a meme of a Twitter post by user @jimmisimpson:

"Once, there was a despotic rich boy who saw how peasants loved the darling carousel in the park. So he bought it & had it moved to his front yard hoping they would love him too. When they didn't, he started punishing them by bashing the mahogany horses each day with his hammer.

He cried 'pay me or I'll destroy your precious thing!' But his threats didn't work cuz the carousel was no longer precious to the town. It was wrecked & unsafe. The town moved on, but the shattered carousel remains on his property. If you visit you can still hear the boy crying."

@actuallyautistic
As I continue my quest to understand and drop so much of the masking I have been doing for so long, I have come to understand something I've been kind of aware of for awhile. That whilst I have never cared about what strangers might think of me, in fact I've always considered this to be somewhat of a strength, I've also always been hyper-aware of how I might be being perceived. This, I now realise, is not the contradiction it seems. My not really caring is just my way of seeing the world. That how others see me is just their view. That it doesn't necessarily reflect me and that unless it's coming from someone I care about or respect, it's unlikely to affect me. If somebody doesn't like the colour of my hair, or the clothes I'm wearing, for example, well that's just their choice and nothing to do with me.
Constantly thinking about and trying to be aware of how others might be perceiving me though, was I now realise always about keeping myself safe. Not in the particulars but the overall. Is my mask (as I now know it to be) slipping, am I being too me, standing out, being too different. Because none of that had ever gone well for me. To give even a simply example, I literally can't even begin to count how many times complete strangers have called me rude to my face, simply because of my tendency not to speak much. And these sort attacks against my fundamental autistic self were always the ones that hurt. Because before I realised I was autistic I had no defence against them. No way of explaining, even to myself, why simply being me should offend them so and also why that shouldn't matter to me. Not on the personal level, any more than any other comment, but only on the "god, what an ableist git" level. But you can't get to that level unless you know it exists and you can't know it exists until you know why you're different. And that took me over 53 years, which is why I'm only just realising this stuff now.

#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic

I made these graphics about stimming.

#ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

#introduction

Hi all ! Just realized that I never did an introduction.
I am a happily married man from Belgium and proud father of 2 girls.
Dog walker for almost a year !
I love music, to listen, to play and to compose, mainly electronic music
See https://www.michaelmathy.be

Otherwise I work on IT in different roles based on the project.

@theautisticcoach @caocancio @actuallyautistics @actuallyautistic The #ActuallyAutistic urge to note you actually asked if others use them, not if they‘re helpful 😅

#ToonDrop

"Trump Court: Back to the Fifties"

#SCOTUS more like #SCROTUS

seems like a reasonable way to interact with those peddling conspiracy theories.

The speech by Frederick Douglass for the Ladies' Anti-Slavery Society of Rochester, NY on July 5th, 1852. He was asked to speak on July 4th, but he chose July 5th instead, to commemorate the abolishment of slavery in New York on July 5th, 1827

https://www.blackpast.org/african-american-history/speeches-african-american-history/1852-frederick-douglass-what-slave-fourth-july/

At the beginning of the wedding, the newlyweds are blessed with  Korovay, and at the end, the godparents distribute the loaf among the guests, as if sharing the happiness of the young family with everyone present.
📸 tortkaravayoksana

“Viola Ford Fletcher, oldest living Tulsa Race Massacre victim, publishes memoir” https://apnews.com/article/viola-fletcher-book-memoir-tulsa-race-massacre-0042fdce69750104e9dd6aef69f63de0

Think this is a wasp but it might well be a hoverfly.
On looking closer - I think that it is a hoverfly

Increasing my kid’s allotted screen time during the summer holidays because I deserve it.

Hello cutie.city! I'll do a proper intro later, but just a few things abt me:
* 30ish year old
* cis woman in tech
* undiagnosed neurospicy
* dog mam
* I enjoy many many things, but here are a few tags:
🎮​ #CozyGames #WholesomeGames #StardewValley #Minecraft #GardenGalaxy
​ #SmallWeb #WebDev #SustainableWeb #WebAccessibility #a11y 🌊​#ColdWaterTherapy 📕​#FantasyFiction #PbPRPG #SoloRPG 🌱​#Allotment #Gardening 🧵​ #Handmade #Crafts 🎨​ #CuteArt

War #photo

A mother is burying her 14-year-old twin daughters, Anna and Yuliia, who were killed in russia’s recent terrorist attack on #Kramatorsk, the #Donetsk region.

By Jan Grarup

Source🔗 https://war.ukraine.ua/photos/?photo=45838

#Ukraine 🇺🇦 #SlavaUkraine #RussiaIsATerroristState
#СлаваУкраїні! #StandWithUkraine #photography

When Existentialism takes to the roda.

Saved a friend from perishing in a window well.

59 years ago, Pres. Johnson signed the 1964 Civil Rights Act, shaping America as we know it today. 60 years ago, everyday activities like dining, hotels, & public trans were pockmarked by segregation & discrimination. This Act is the most comprehensive civil rights legislation since Reconstruction, & we owe it all to the tireless efforts of ordinary citizens in the American civil rights movement.

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#StillWeRise #BlackHistory #BlackMastodon
#Histodons #History

@blackmastodon@a.gup.pe @BlackMastodon@chirp.social

@actuallyautistic Okay, folks... riddle me this.

When my ex-wife was glaring at me, I did not see the glare, and this caused us a whole bunch of disputes over the years.

The thing is, however, that if you put pictures of people in front of me and you ask about how they feel, I'm going to get it right.

So I'm confused.

Are there autistic people who can pass the "tell me what this person is feeling?" test on the basis of pictures, but fail to notice the feelings displayed on folks' faces when they are involved in a situation with those folks?

Like... if they are being tested in a clam setting, they can do it. (In a clam setting, at the bottom of the sea. Har... har... I meant a calm setting.)

But if they are in a possibly anxiety-inducing situation, the ability goes out the window?