I need to figure out how to confront transphobic playgroup dad preferably without it being a whole thing where I also can't go to playgroup any more.
There's got to be a fairly civilised way of telling someone you absolutely do not agree with their views, but where you also get to keep taking your baby to playgroup so he can learn and play.
At the moment I'm being such a wuss about it because playgroup is also the only place I get to go out and talk to adults and god I'm so fucking alone being a stay at home mum is so isolating, but fuck why does he gotta do that shit and why can't I just
can we just talk about how his kid is climbing into the toy cupboard instead?
I'm pushing back a bit, but mostly I'm just kinda freezing, because I don't know how to respond, it's like my brain goes blank.
maple classic™ 
@Tarale reply with enthusiasm
"oh REALLY? they're doing that? that's so great!"
@squirrel I could probably manage that, actually. Good idea!
@squirrel like, that also puts it back on him. I'm happy to have an argument if it's going to go that way, but I don't want to start shit either. Mostly I'm there to commiserate about sleep deprivation and watch babies stick things in their mouths.
@squirrel so far I've been evasive and giving him a bunch of soft push back, but I feel shitty about it. I've never been great at confrontation. It's even more awkward with the babies there, who kinda freak out if you get emotional.
I was similarly awkward about his anti-vaccination stuff.
It always comes out of nowhere, too
"Are you guys thinking about schools yet?"
"I don't like public schools now with the way they're headed."
"What do you mean?"
"Oh, the bathroom stuff, where, like, a little boy can decide he's a little girl, and stuff."
fucking what