Bigotry isn't always about hating a group of people for no reason. Often it's about not letting them make as many mistakes as priviledged people. Often it's about assuming malicious intent automatically. It is about not giving marginalised people as much leeway in what is acceptable and what is not. It's about holding them to a higher standard and punishing them more harshly for the same mistakes.
people who read books: i think my favourite author is brilliant, but only thanks to the writers that influenced them and the resources that were available to them at the time as well as their generalised culture of course.
people who watch movies: my favourite director, whose movies hundreds of other people worked on, is a god king who can do no wrong
weight talk
#fatboyfall has officially turned to #fatboywinter
Thank goodness I have built up a layer of warm, soft, protective chub, as part of the natural cycle of things
pedophilia, sexual abuse
Sometimes I wonder why I get so frightened and avoidant when people show romantic/sexual attention to me, and then I remember my adoptive family just shrugged their shoulders and let this person stay in my life for two decades.
pedophilia, sexual abuse
I was not conscious of hating them for being pervy.
I just didn't like them touching my butt all the time, staring at me dreamily, grabbing me to kiss me, and demanding they be allowed to wash me or come into the bathroom while I was trying to use the toilet.
In my child-brain, with no concept of perviness, this was just them being a loathsome and annoying person I didn't want anywhere near me.
pedophilia, sexual abuse
https://medium.com/survivors/the-stages-of-sexual-grooming-every-parent-should-know-6e98fb444f9f
Reading this article and realizing that I was groomed very incompetently as a child. They forgot the step where the child has to not fucking hate you for being a perv.
Trans, guy of center, well over 18.
I'm in tech and it feels weird.