gender is a fuck
if we take "gender=identity", then I'm agender and/or demimale
but if we take "gender=performance" or "gender=material class", then I'm clearly a cis man, because my gnc-ness is best understood as gayness and any gendered oppression as homophobia. it's not just that I present as a man, but that I'm comfortable doing it. my indifference towards my gender just manifests as passively accepting my role
gender is a fuck
which is why I'm not fully comfortable calling myself enby or trans.
i know I'm not the first person to worry about not being "trans enough",, but what if I'm the first person to be right lol
gender is a fuck, white guilt
I think part of my anxiety is because I feel pretty much the same way about being a man as I do about being white. neither is super important to my self identity, but they still affect my life in big ways that I just accept.
I'm not trying to equivocate being transgender with being transracial (lmao), but regardless of how I could forsake maleness in a way I couldn't forsake whiteness, my point is that I'm not actually forsaking either
gender is a fuck, white guilt
@pinksock
Not every trans or enby person experience gender dysphoria but almost all experience gender euphoria. Just because you're "fine" with the way you are doesn't mean you won't be better if you're allowed to expressed it. The prevention from having a better life is a form of oppression too. The argument of gender performance is a slippery slope that can potentially imply gatekeepers.
gender is a fuck, white guilt
@pinksock
And you shouldn't reduce these experiences to purely homophobia as it is obvious that whoever is subjecting you to such things also hold the threat of transphobia if you want to proclaim your gender identity.