Know what's cool about the split model of attraction?
@carlygayjepsen
Sounds like it's working for you, then. You know they're different components of your attraction and you know they align in a certain way for you.
Same for sexuality. We can break it down to be specific about the components of our desire.
No one has to conform to amatonormative, heteronormative, monogamously informed rules of interpersonal interaction.
Drop the bioessentialism, rid yourself of slut shaming, and embrace the split model-- and the ace and aro people who brought it.
Being able to unpack attraction is awesome. Feeling uncomfortable by how aesthetically appealing someone is because you don't want to be misunderstood as sexually interested and don't want it to automatically be the beginning of a relationship?
Yeah same lol. So now we can acknowledge things like aesthetic attraction and think about how it plays out into human life and love... and also oppression.
This is what culturally growing up looks like.
came out to my mom on the phone tonight
and she was fucking cool about it! asked me my name, i gave her my pronouns and everything, she said she'll do her best
told me she always tried to keep an open mind in case of something like this
like, ok, she misgendered old co-workers in a story but like, for a 69-year-old person she's doing amazing, honey
@lynnesbian
What if you change your legal name, and someone writes your old name in the death note? Or what if someone writes your Mastodon username in there? Is that good enough?
What if you wrote in invisible ink? Is the Spiral-bound Notebook of Death compatible with lemon juice?
{Please, Lynne, I need answers}
queer/geek/artist/entomologist/professional regiphagist
transphobes/aphobes/biphobes/panphobes and pedos please kindly fuck off