@12 It makes sense to me, though I haven't experienced it. And it sounds amazing. -Bunni
@12 Is it anything like unconditional love for all things? -Bunni
@hollie @jessekelber It'd surprise me if Proton doesn't provide an IMAP option. (Basically acting as an email client and downloading your mails.)
Hate is a sticky substance. It clings to you, seeps into your bones, and becomes the defining feature of who you are if you let it. There’s something undeniably appealing about it — this feeling that your disdain, your disgust, your burning dislike for a person, a group, or an ideology can somehow make you sharper, smarter, or morally superior.
https://www.joanwestenberg.com/how-defining-yourself-by-what-you-hate-makes-you-miserable/
Not a sub-toot per se, just an evergreen sentiment I think about often:
If sexual orientation was a choice I would still choose to be gay.
I love being gay. I hate bigotry.
I love being a lesbian. I hate a social system that prioritizes cis straight men and actively oppresses everyone else.
I love being queer. I hate rigid expectations and rules about self expression.
I love to love women. My attraction to women is one of my favourite parts of me.
To love women goes against so much of what I was taught about the world.
So many people hate women, including women themselves.
To love women is an act of defiance against so many systems of oppression.
To love women is to love myself.
I am not a fan of the messaging that not having a choice in our identity (gender, race, sexual orientation, etc) somehow makes it more important to protect than if it was a choice.
I want choice and agency to also be important and protected.
We see how dangerous it can be when a person’s choice about their own life is deemed not important.
Entire laws are created to control women and their choices about their own bodies, including their choice to use the public washroom they feel most comfortable in, or going through nearly a year of body transformations to give birth to a child the world will let die to guns or bombs or starvation.
I think about all of this when I think about being gay.
A PSA for people active on #Bluesky: your block list is PUBLIC information.
A website that tracks Bluesky stats – which I am not naming here on purpose – makes this job super easy: you can enter *any* username and see the accounts any user has blocked.
(Yes I tested it with my account and was horrified)
I'm alarmed by this because the information could be weaponized for abuse.
Muting may be the safer choice then?
Please read up about Bluesky here: https://dustycloud.org/blog/how-decentralized-is-bluesky/ (by @cwebber)
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@lioness One of those is incorrect in my case.
So are we going to talk about how the Seven Deadly Sins are, like…good actually?
* Pride: You're awesome and that matters.
* Wrath: Fight back when you're wronged.
* Gluttony: Relish the animal.
* Greed: You deserve nice things.
* Lust: Relish the animal!
* Sloth: Don't let yourself be overworked.
…Envy might be the only one that /isn't./ But it's still not something you should beat yourself up over. Just, y'know, work on it. It's never too late to start being better.
@deviantollam I'm a queer plural hacker in St Paul, but I don't know of any local communities around plurality.
a fundamental part of cultural Calvinism that I often see in radical spaces is the idea of ontological evilness - that is, the idea that, if someone does evil, hurtful things, then the impetus to do those things must necessarily stem from a fundamentally evil, hurtful essence that that person was born with. and, if someone is fundamentally evil at heart, then that necessarily means that anything done to them, even something that would be evil when done to a Good Person, is ethically justified.
some of this encroachment is simply due to a failure to engage in inner work. some of it is also due to our respective traumas, because it's all too easy for us to split on someone whom we see as having revealed their Evil Essence through words or actions.
in reality, of course, there are no Good People or Evil People. there are just people who, for some reason or another (and it's always something that can be explained, though an explanation is different than an excuse), either accidentally, or make the decision to, do evil, harmful things.
it's only when we stop seeing people as Ontologically Evil, and begin to see them as human beings who have the capability to do both good and evil, that we begin to truly deconstruct carceral systems of justice and the evils that those systems perpetuate. it's only then that we find ourselves able to reorient our actions when someone does a hurtful thing toward protecting the victim(s) and our communities, and (where we're able, when that first goal has been achieved) allowing the hurting party to learn and grow, and away from simply doling out retributive harm to the offender.
@ashten in this metaphor I feel like neurotypicals are classical CISC and have thousands of specific and largely undocumented instructions with arcane addressing modes, and neurodivergents have an straightforward load-store RISC architecture that has to go through clean room reverse engineered emulation libraries that takes 100x the instructions and has fragile exception handling for each undocumented CISC instruction
dear neurotypicals
you cannot install neurotypical software onto neurodivergent robot girl processors without some kind of emulation
performance will be absolute trash
i highly recommend adjusting your software to better utilize the neurodivergent chipset, or at the very least, allow the robot girl to recompile the software so she can get the task done her own way