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@Mephitidae There's a level of knowledge about trans people to it: not all trans people or even all trans women have dicks, so trans == dick is a wrong assumption. Additionally, simplified assumptions about the way trans people have sex could be involved. See https://www.autostraddle.com/mira-bellwether-author-and-illustrator-of-fucking-trans-women-zine-the-autostraddle-interview/if interested in that.

@Mephitidae I don't really want to watch a video now, so I can't talk about that directly.

[long answer, sorry! but this is not a simple topic.]

As for liking dick or not liking dick in general: I think it depends a lot on the context in which one talks about this preference, and the way one presents it.

@Mephitidae

I definitely hate this structure, and I hate it when people support it, so idk, that might look like hating cis people to some.

Hope that hepls! I'm not really in the mood for discussion today, but if something isn't clear, feel free to ask.

@Mephitidae

– I don't hate cis people. I don't know if it seems that way, and if it does, why it does. If I'm upset with something trans-related that a cis person does, I'm very likely to mention that they are cis, because it is relevant to the situation. I might also generalise about my experiences as a trans person in a cissexist society, a society that favours cis-ness.

@Mephitidae

Just keep in mind that while making mistakes doesn't make you a bad person, your mistakes can still hurt someone, and being hurt will definitely shape their reaction. You can practice using someone's new pronouns more easily by coming up with example sentences in your mind or writing them down, that takes away the pressure of doing the right thing in front of the person who will be affected.

@Mephitidae

– I have no idea about Canadian law or the way it is enforced.

– I mean, nobody can force you to use the correct pronouns. But if you know someone's pronouns, why would you use different ones on purpose? That is just extremely rude and shows the other person that you value your idea of who they should be over who they actually are. Mistakes happen, they are ok.

@Mephitidae ok, so my answers would be:

– you don't have to date any specific person. but if you say that you don't want to date a trans person, no matter your intentions, that is most likely because you have learned of cissexist standards of who is desirable. that doesn't mean that you should force yourself to date a trans person, because that wouldn't be fun for either of you. just acknowledge that personal taste can be shaped by social shit.

@necrosis@witches.town dürfen auf jeden Fall, ist ja deine Zeit. Wenn du glaubst, dass es gut wäre, go for it. Falls du zweifelst, ob sie damit gut umgeht, könntest du aber auch erst zu einer Trans-Beratung oder so, um mal drüber zu reden, ohne dass es gleich was mit deiner Therapeutin, die du für noch was anderes brauchst, riskiert.

@flauschFraktal :( the obvious is "do stuff that makes you feel ok or better, or distract yourself", but I know that that's neither easy nor enough.

Ooohgott, das "wir wollen eigentlich nur schnell dieses verlassene Schiff ausräumen, oh warum bewegt sich da was, oh warum macht unser eigenes Schiff komische Dinge"-Trope ist SO GRUSELIG m)

Ich glaub ich könnte nichteinmal totale Comedy damit schauen, ohne mich zu gruseln.

Yeah no idea if I'm going to like it! There is definitely potential for that (the ships *-*) #killjoys

It is definitely pretty #killjoys

…well I'm watching Killjoys episode 1 now, I hope I like it