Theory: it's because we've switched our entire life to deal with differing situations, without knowing what we were doing, so there we're just learning to consciously access a skill we've had all along, while we've never developed the skill of telling ourselves apart.
re: plurality(~)
@madewokherd it feels kinda like an atrophied muscle, telling who's who. they come and go but you just see moods and reactions and not faces or names