Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

facebook is attempting to sell me something with a "chicken crust pizza" and i am mildly terrified by this new keto bullshit

why couldn't you just stick to cauliflower

there's ONE chicken crust pizza i will accept, and that's basically a glorified chicken parm

thankfully i did not endure the plague much myself

however, the event WoW did based off it - just before WotLK hit - was genuinely one of the best times i've ever had in video games. like, there's no way it could have been anything other than a one-off, and was easy to grief people with. but my best friend and i kept a chunk of thunder bluff entirely zombies for an amazing amount of time LOL

sawbones aka my favourite podcast has done an episode on THE WORLD OF WARCRAFT PLAGUE and my dudes, i am fucking hype

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city it definitely sucks when you have that moment of "well fuck, i didn't expect things to go like that", and stand there like Wile E. Coyote with a facefull of soot and no eyebrows.

but, honestly, sometimes you have to look at it as "perhaps i should not have lit the fuse on this bomb", instead of blaming the bomb - or any nearby roadrunners - for your sudden lack of eyebrows.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city it is sometimes like wondering why things got messy after you were, say, doing some splatter painting. if using the same techniques as Pollack to fling paint onto canvas, it's not that surprising when you end up with paint on your nose.

things like "this is why i'm leaving", "love that i'm an evil villain now", etc. are... basically subtoots of playing the victim. i do them in frustration, too, now and again. but it ends up getting read that way, and it's good to keep it in mind.

as someone who does not want kids and is low-key terrified them, i do not know much about babies except thus

-they are Loud.

-messy body fluids from either/both ends, Quite Often

-both more fragile and more durable than you imagine

-like the fae, often governed by strict arcane and unknowable rules, and will leave you similarly sapped of your life force due primarily to lack of sleep

-dumb af, lol

anyway back to considering baby shower next weekend lol

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city and similarly, if you are in the kitchen on the sautee station, you probably should not be shocked when it gets a little warm. if you use the same tools and methods - including disregard for another person's feelings, patronizing attitudes, and focusing only on yourself as the victim instead of addressing people you've hurt - you're going to get a similar result, as you're doing the same recipe.

something to keep in mind, i've babbled enough, lol.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city it would have been easy to talk in generalities and not single one person out for harsh critique - or it would have been easy to ask them "hey, i'd like to talk about this topic. do you have input? is it ok if i use some of your content this way?"

people are getting mad at you for "screenshot dunking" because, well, even if that wasn't your intent, you still managed to do it, and hurt people because of it.

so if you start off using toxic tools - don't be surprised i suppose.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city less toxicity is a good goal. but it also requires humbly admitting your own mistakes and toxic behavior.

if you have this going on - and the person you singled out for harsh critique is the one saying "actually i'm not cool with this still" while you are saying "well i apologised and all is well", to boot - i'm not sure why you are surprised that you're getting 'misunderstood', here.

it might be a good time to also consider that you are perhaps not such a victim here, too.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city if you are using "i'm writing an essay about you" in a way that sounds like a threat, in response to using someone's post as an example of some bad behavior you want to highlight - without letting that person know ahead of time, or giving them any sort of indication, just leaving a nasty surprise for them - while making yourself out to be a martyr, with a side order of "see this is why i can't be here with you meanies" flounce...

i'm not sure why you're surprised here.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city to put it more bluntly, if you're expecting to have an adult conversation with people, cooing like a preschool teacher about how "hello stranger, so glad you came in with your outside voice, i hope you find happiness" sabotages your goal. it ends up just reading as a put-down. "hello, idiot. thanks for coming to yell at me, motherfucker, i'm writing an essay so i can expose YOU, too. by the way, i'm just going to mention that i'm fucking enlightened here, not like you plebs."

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city and to be quite honest, this plus your comments with this spirit of "well i have no idea why everyone is mad at me" - well, you might have good points, but it makes you very hard to trust. if comments where you make yourself out to be the victim are right by what is next to positivity, on the same subject, it makes those positive words read as superficial, if not patronizing, insincere, or - ironically - sarcastic.

@Wewereseeds@sunbeam.city not that i know wtf is going on here, just strolling by, but i think this may actually be a strategy that is backfiring on you.

like how sarcasm in tone can get lost in the purely-text-based internet, so can genuine kindness and understanding versus false sweetness.

it ends up quickly reading as patronizing and superficial, especially when further discussed in a tactical way. if it's a stratagem, and you talk about it as such, it reads as superficial instead of sincere.

the rest of the site is tiresome as fuck but https://tacticalbabygear.com/products/tbg-e-b-o-k-emergency-blowout-kit?variant=15429135990874&gclid=Cj0KCQjwla7nBRDxARIsADll0kDGjmr8PCISxmGTQCEYXfG5AunfZZwkczGlMA2aOrI4wA3OJTf8SloaAmvKEALw_wcB see that actually looks intensely practical

also the military theme works when it is, indeed, AW SHIT EMERGENCY (A SHIT EMERGENCY, EVEN)

they say it's perfect for just tossing in the car and that sounds like a fantastic practical thing to me lol, a lot better than drowning everyone in the 19867th cute baby stuffed animal or blanket (which it's Hard to Not Acquire because Cute but there's only so many of those a kid needs)

ok egregiously gendered shit is tiresome, however, i have found an instance of it that genuinely makes me laugh and i'm going to get for my cousin and his wife for their baby shower: an 'emergency blowout kit' with disposable changing mat, wipes, new diaper, etc. packaged like a military MRE

1. deadass practical, 2. less 'i can only be a dad if it's camo' and more 'THIS IS INDEED AN EMERGENCY THANK GOODNESS YOU PUT A KIT IN THE CAR'

i am now... ready for shadowbringers.

what no i haven't pre-ordered the xpack or anything like that. but i DID get my viera's character sheet done, which is obviously more important, sooooooo https://docs.google.com/document/d/1y8w_7kG1ObtWAr6AxLORpW6ndi4yatdMOA49b-to-Rc/edit?usp=sharing

finally managed to put a pen to paper (ok digital paper close enough) and draw my viera before shadowbringers happens properly in #ffxiv , documenting her scars and her tattoo for #ffxivrp purposes (which right now is uhhh me rping in my head only o well.)

her tattoo is partially 'medicinal', an icelandic rune, lásabrjótur, meant to help 'free from fetters' - in her case, the fetters being the limp caused by her old wound

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