Harp the Wigglytuff @wigglytuffitout@computerfairi.es

gold saucer? i think you mean, gold BUNCLE #ffxiv

anyway i think the Life Lesson for here is that if anyone says they're enlightened, they're tryin' to sell you some shit (at the very least, the concept they have it figured out, if not more bull)

part of that humility is recognizing that i DON'T know it all. in fact, by being a cishet white middle-class woman, there's some shit i ain't ever gonna know y'all! i will never have first-hand experience on a whole bunch of stuff! that is just how it works!

so i don't claim to know it all. because i don't.

i sit down. i listen. i do not let ego override people's right to live. and i hope that when i do screw up, i can take it on the chin and be better.

the ONLY way for me to be a good ally here is to just accept that someday, I AM GONNA FUCK UP. and i accept it by knowing that even though my feelings are going to hurt, even though the knee-jerk reaction is to fight it, MY MOMENTARY UNCOMFY IS WORTH MUCH LESS THAN PEOPLE'S WHOLE GOT DANG LIVES.

so i operate with the humility to realize that i'm going to screw up, AND when i do, i gotta get a ladder out n get over myself.

listen, if you say you're for dismantling some system that oppresses people as an ally, an then refuse to examine your own shit that you have inevitably learned from that system, that's not being an ally

i am cishet. i am white. i am middle-class. and you know what that means? I Sit The Fuck Down, Shut Up, And Listen.

i also accept and know that it is not a matter of if i screw up, but WHEN.

@HerraBRE but if you ain't willing to own your shit and work on it -

hey.

don't call yourself a feminist, yeah?

I Listen And Accept Input Only When Convenient And Know Better Than Silly Women is not feminist. it is, in fact, anti-feminist, as it's just the same ol' same ol' shit.

you can do that if you want. but know what you're doing.

anyway, to answer your question: yep i do feel better, thanks. it means i get to write you off now lmao. ciao.

@HerraBRE however i guess this confirms me to be right lol - why would the Enlightened Dude of Dudeliness dare deign to examine his own shit when he could throw his nose in the air and continue being superior to these idiot hoi polloi who are actually, gasp, *angry* about shit (how boorish!)?

idk man, it's up to you if you wanna actually own your shit and improve and be a decent person, or just wrap yourself up in more layers of smugness on account of always being right.

@HerraBRE eh, i was going for "this person is putting forth these ideas and could benefit or take heed from a 'check yourself before you wreck yourself' as part of the discourse on mastodon", because i have this weird naiive idea about how sometimes people can actually change their course when told "that ain't it, chief".

if you don't want people to respond to your posts - i would suggest perhaps at least limiting to local timeline only, if not followers-only.

ok my dog is yelling at me to go to bed

GOODNIGHT FEDIVERSE

@InspectorCaracal a troll that wants ramen..................................... which is legitimate i suppose

i'm guessing that mars is rising in the fifth house or whatever and also my subconscious wants ramen and frilly clothes, personally

dream interpreters, what's my dream from last night mean: i dreamed i was with family and we were visiting tokyo and my dad wanted to eat at the one (1) singular cracker barrel in all of japan so we had to go 3 hours out of the way and miss my one goal for the trip, the plus-sized lolita fashion store

...

note: i did promptly get up groggily to jokingly demand my dad that If We Go To Tokyo There Will Be Absolutely No Cracker Barrel

@melt@mastodon.social i'm not sure that's what people typically mean when they say "cowboy mustache", but it does suit you, so it all works out

anyway i gotta go write an apology letter to all members of outkast for summing up so many objections i have to people on mastodon with the chorus to roses

@HerraBRE and honestly, dismissing people saying "eat the rich" as "not enlightened" is real easy when you're in a position where your daily life is not threatened by the rich deciding profits are more important than you being able to live.

for more information on THAT, this type 2 diabetic cordially invites you to look up the cost of insulin in the united states, over time, and the profit margin on it.

so, in conclusion.

🎵 i know you like to think your shit don't stink... 🎵

@HerraBRE that sort of enlightenment ain't revolutionary. it's the same old-same old of Dude Tells You Silly Minorities What To Think Because He Alone Has The Clearly Superior Brain.

that schtick got old about... ohhh... *checks watch* i'm gonna say, generously, 20,000 BCE? sounds like a good estimate.

for more information, please see this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gWju37TZfo0 declaring yourself as Mighty Fine 'cos you're enlightened is only gonna get you somewhere half the time...

@HerraBRE making broad declarations that Oppressed People Don't Understand Their Circumstances And Only I, On My Mountain Of Privilege, Can Truly Understand What They Should Feel Because I Am So Enlightened is not, in short, good praxis.

if you're against these systems, you have to understand and sympathize with people being mad at them. NOT dismiss them as 'the unenlightened' while snobbily tossing your nose in the air.

@HerraBRE and honestly, if you're willing to call yourself a male feminist and also spout this NOT ALL MEN crap - that conveniently gives you an excuse to never look at yourself as an individual perpetuating these systems, which come from no person whatsoever but are the Real Problem Not People Totes Trust Me I'm Enlightened - i think we all know what your feminism is gonna eventually end up being.

@HerraBRE it is, essentially, "if you point out your oppressor, you are not Enlightened (tm) and not worthy of my time! you should work at being more Enlightened (tm) like me! the systems that harm you are totally unconnected to the people in those systems, building those systems, so don't be mad at the people harming you! it's, like, the system, brah. the person who punched you? they were just, like, innocent. totes innocent my dude."

@HerraBRE if you are Enlightened, it means you never have to question yourself. here, you've set yourself up perfectly to ignore how you contribute to, maintain, and promote those harmful systems. "ah, well, they just happen, and people who benefit are totally innocent you see..." not only ignores the reality of how those systems happen, but dismisses the genuine anger, hurt, and harm being done to minorities by those systems.